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Old 09-04-2015, 04:16 PM
 
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Hi Cynthetik, how's it going? You sound like me a few years ago. Things got better, and they will for you too. I think others have given good advice, but I just wanted you to know that you shouldn't give up. When you are in a rut in life, it's common for us to think that things will never get better. But it's a trick your depressed mind is playing on you. Things WILL get better if you just stick in there and keep trying! The only people who are failures are those who stop trying.

Learn to code and you can eventually get a good job somewhere. Go through all the courses at Code Academy. I know tons of college drop outs who are now very successful people after they got into web development.
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Old 09-04-2015, 06:09 PM
 
Location: London
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I've had it. My childhood was full of bull****. Parents, teachers, and peers constantly treat me like I'm an idiot. I'm lazy, crazy, and mentally retarded.

College has been brutal for me. I failed so many classes to the point of losing financial benefits. I've been through cycles of jobs and can never keep one for longer than 3 months, because I get yelled at constantly by bosses and coworkers for screwing everything up.

I'm sick of people who expect me to be the same as everyone else. I'm tired of never living to anyone's expectations. I'm 25, been unemployed 6 months and have been trying to find a job only to come with nothing. It's tiring. It's overwhelming and I can't take it anymore. My parents spent all day and night working and expect me to get a job on a silver platter. Every time I have been job searching, I'm losing money on transportation costs with no result. It's starting to become a waste of time and money. Now I'm going to be thrown out of the house very soon and I'm prepared to pull the plug and end it. I don't even have the money to leave the house anymore and it's been very difficult for me.


Don't tell me to talk to my family. The most I'll get is a "get over it" and "grow up". They don't understand what I'm going through and I don't know either.

Gaming right now is the only source of my sanity. I can be in a fantasy world where people acknowledge your existence. Where no one yells at you constantly for being a failure.

ADHD and Autism is the most painful thing to have. I'd rather have AIDS and terminal cancer than live 60 years of my life knowing that I can't get or keep a job, ever get married, and live a normal life like everyone else.

I applied for disability but I doubt I'll qualify after the 20th time I applied.

I'm done. I can't take it anymore. I don't know what to do and I'm going nuts.

Don't tell me to call some Suicide hotline as that hasn't helped me and it's not going to find me work.
There are people who buy corn for $0.50, grill them, toss a bit of paprika and salt on them and sell them for $5 each downtown. All you need to start is a cheap grill, a few corn cobs, and the spices. And you can make some easy profit.

Or try Elance. You seem to be a good writer. You can do freelance writing. I've done that before, and am happy to give you some tips on that if that's something you're interested in.

I also have ADHD, so I can relate to the struggles of that.
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Old 09-04-2015, 06:41 PM
 
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stop taking all those anti psychotic mind altering meds. thats the root of your problem right there. the drugs.

it sounds to be like you don't like anything or take interest in anything.

what are you good at in your personal life? hobbies, livelihoods, etc?

it sounds to me like you don't take life seriously enough.

you also sound like an introvert. probably because you aren't interested in anything, besides video games, internet and tv.
I picked up on that too - gaming is a problem here, as are the other hyper stimulating endeavors people get themselves into - porn, weed, etc. This stuff does mental damage after a time.
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Old 09-04-2015, 07:00 PM
 
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OP has told us people have treated him badly ALL HIS LIFE.

This predates gaming, is actually utterly irrelevant to gaming.

Gaming is his COPING mechanism, just as a business executive has a couple of whiskey night caps.

I once went to a psychiatrist who seized on my marijuana use as The Problem, completely ignoring the issues I've had all my life.

Imagine my shock when a second psych diagnosed me with BPD...a complex, life altering mental illness usually acquired around the age of 2 or so due to neglect and/or abuse.

The first psych, by the way, is the subject of a Complaint with the Medical Board.
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Old 09-04-2015, 08:05 PM
 
Location: Southern Iowa
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Definitely don't give up. Keep going.
ADHD can be brutal. I've got ADD and it can be tough to focus. Possibly look into a local factory for employment.
My DD also has ADD and Aspergers.
Wishing you nothing but the very best.
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Old 09-04-2015, 09:26 PM
 
Location: Barrington
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9 times out of 10, not college material means burger flipping for the rest of your life, figuring out how to survive in a 1 bedroom apartment.
Why not share an apartment?
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Old 09-04-2015, 10:16 PM
 
Location: SoCal
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Seek help.
Completely agreed.

Whatever you do, don't commit suicide--after all, it is certainly permanent and irreversible. Thus, please seek someone to help you out, preferably someone who has already successfully dealt with people in situations similar to yours.
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Old 09-04-2015, 10:22 PM
 
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I've had it. My childhood was full of bull****. Parents, teachers, and peers constantly treat me like I'm an idiot. I'm lazy, crazy, and mentally retarded.

College has been brutal for me. I failed so many classes to the point of losing financial benefits. I've been through cycles of jobs and can never keep one for longer than 3 months, because I get yelled at constantly by bosses and coworkers for screwing everything up.

I'm sick of people who expect me to be the same as everyone else. I'm tired of never living to anyone's expectations. I'm 25, been unemployed 6 months and have been trying to find a job only to come with nothing. It's tiring. It's overwhelming and I can't take it anymore. My parents spent all day and night working and expect me to get a job on a silver platter. Every time I have been job searching, I'm losing money on transportation costs with no result. It's starting to become a waste of time and money. Now I'm going to be thrown out of the house very soon and I'm prepared to pull the plug and end it. I don't even have the money to leave the house anymore and it's been very difficult for me.


Don't tell me to talk to my family. The most I'll get is a "get over it" and "grow up". They don't understand what I'm going through and I don't know either.

Gaming right now is the only source of my sanity. I can be in a fantasy world where people acknowledge your existence. Where no one yells at you constantly for being a failure.

ADHD and Autism is the most painful thing to have. I'd rather have AIDS and terminal cancer than live 60 years of my life knowing that I can't get or keep a job, ever get married, and live a normal life like everyone else.

I applied for disability but I doubt I'll qualify after the 20th time I applied.

I'm done. I can't take it anymore. I don't know what to do and I'm going nuts.

Don't tell me to call some Suicide hotline as that hasn't helped me and it's not going to find me work.
Sincere advice : Get off the ****kingh internet for a while. If you can play a game well, you can do anything well. If your bosses yell at you, analyse why and take measures.
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Old 09-05-2015, 12:11 AM
 
Location: Washington state
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There are children in syria who may never see their futures and the struggles their families are going through, so being unemployed for 6 months and having a bad time of things is no excuse to end your own life.
I don't think this is a fair comparison. Anytime you tell someone who is going through hard times to buck up because someone else has it harder is simply putting the person down and telling him his feelings have no validation, which isn't true. And on top of that, what, exactly, is this person supposed to do to make things better for the kids in Syria? Him (or her) being happier isn't going to make their lives better. It's sort of like saying some women would give their left arm to be able to have a baby, and so because of that, I'm supposed to have a baby because they can't or I can't get my tubes tied because I should be grateful I can get pregnant and give birth?

Unfortunately, it doesn't work like that.
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Old 09-05-2015, 03:46 AM
 
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Truck Driver. It's a no brainer job that no one can screw up. Pay isn't to bad either if you're will to be an overnight trucker. Plus I think you can pick and choose when you want to work so if you start to get burnt out you can take a week off.
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