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I just want to hear people's thoughts on this. I was surprised to find that not everybody likes nice and sweet people! Do you find them annoying? I have a sassy side and a sweet side. I usually think of my sassy side as being an ahole so I don't let it out often, only to my closest friends who I know can appreciate it. I'm not that mean when I'm sassy but I like my sweet side more, especially for people I don't know well. But I seem to make friends easier and attract people like me when I let my sassy side out. I can't even control which side gets let out though. I feel like it highly depends on who I'm speaking with. I would like to have my sassy side out more but most people won't even understand that part of me.
It really depends. If it's just their natural personality then I think that is fine. But some people try to be nice all the time, thinking that it is the "right" thing to do. It's good to have some of that, thought. Neither extreme (mean or nice) is very desirable to me. I suppose it's really all about maturity.
I just want to hear people's thoughts on this. I was surprised to find that not everybody likes nice and sweet people! Do you find them annoying? I have a sassy side and a sweet side. I usually think of my sassy side as being an ahole so I don't let it out often, only to my closest friends who I know can appreciate it. I'm not that mean when I'm sassy but I like my sweet side more, especially for people I don't know well. But I seem to make friends easier and attract people like me when I let my sassy side out. I can't even control which side gets let out though. I feel like it highly depends on who I'm speaking with. I would like to have my sassy side out more but most people won't even understand that part of me.
Niceness can be a social strategy so I don't really determine if I like it or not. What I do pay attention to are values. If we share the same values, then I don't always have to be nice and sweet. Those are the people I make friends with.
I just want to hear people's thoughts on this. I was surprised to find that not everybody likes nice and sweet people! Do you find them annoying? I have a sassy side and a sweet side. I usually think of my sassy side as being an ahole so I don't let it out often, only to my closest friends who I know can appreciate it. I'm not that mean when I'm sassy but I like my sweet side more, especially for people I don't know well. But I seem to make friends easier and attract people like me when I let my sassy side out. I can't even control which side gets let out though. I feel like it highly depends on who I'm speaking with. I would like to have my sassy side out more but most people won't even understand that part of me.
sweet - yes. saccharine - god, no. They usually are fake.
sassy people are more interesting, seemingly genuine, and fun. They seem self-contained and confident, whereas sweet people are often people pleasin
A kind person is nice a lot of the time, but not all the time. No person who's being themselves and being genuine/natural is sweet and nice 100% of the time. Everyone has encountered things, people, opinions etc that don't sit well with them. There's also many situations where a person is neither nice or mean...there's a huge middle ground where a person is just serious or neutral or humorous or indifferent or sassy. The more interesting, confident and likable people usually display a variety of behaviors depending on situation and mood...they're not afraid to express themselves and in most cases they don't give a flip about what others think.
I can understand if plastering on a smile is part of the job description (I can usually tell that the smile is forced, but I don't mind since the person's just being professional and doing their job.) But in other situations, "fake nice" often comes across as a bit patronizing, and will rub some people the wrong way. "Fake nice" people are also hard to trust.
A good sign that a person is mature is how he reacts to and handles situations that he doesn't like. A mature person seldom lets himself get consumed with negativity or anger; he keeps control of his emotions. When he/she encounters something or someone he doesn't like, he either ignores it, or stays out of the way, or lets it roll off his back, or deals with it in a calm, steady, firm manner, or uses humor and wit to defuse the situation and maybe even turn the negative into a positive, or just listens and allows the other person to "let it all out".
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