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Old 10-13-2015, 05:32 PM
 
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I do. Depending on the person, I don't have to force myself. But for the majority of the people I have to remind myself to say hi to them, and force myself to initiate texts and conversations with them. Wondering how common this is.
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Old 10-14-2015, 03:10 AM
 
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I do. Depending on the person, I don't have to force myself. But for the majority of the people I have to remind myself to say hi to them, and force myself to initiate texts and conversations with them. Wondering how common this is.
I don't force myself. That to me sounds a bit too much like an obligation, which I don't live by. I speak to people because I want to.
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Old 10-14-2015, 06:35 AM
 
Location: Northern Wisconsin
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I only speak when I want to, not out of social obligation. I talk for a living. I've found out that most people are not all that interested in what you have to say, or wish you'd never opened your mouth. I've also come to the conclusion that most people don't like you and wish you weren't there, so I don't make the situation worse by talking too.
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Old 10-15-2015, 10:15 AM
 
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I do. Depending on the person, I don't have to force myself. But for the majority of the people I have to remind myself to say hi to them, and force myself to initiate texts and conversations with them. Wondering how common this is.
same here

for the most part, if I know the person and I don't like them, I wont even bother saying hi or anything to them. and I will usually respond with short answers and fail to keep any sort of conversation going. even then, it is a forced response. even saying hi back to them when they say hi is forced.
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Old 10-15-2015, 10:19 AM
 
Location: rural south west UK
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if I don't want to talk to someone, I don't, I ignore them. I don't like people most of the time, they aren't worth my time, bunch of losers.
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Old 10-15-2015, 10:23 AM
 
Location: Southwestern, USA, now.
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No, I force myself to listen.

Sometimes, really.
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Old 10-15-2015, 11:50 AM
 
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Ok, I don't like most people either and don't want to talk to most people and wish most people weren't there either. But living like this is depressing. You isolate yourself for a judgment of someone that may or may not be true. And when you only talk to the people you like but make it clear you don't like another person, well those two could be good friends and the person you like now no longer likes you or won't like you. I find that seeing someone you know and not saying hi to them is rude.
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Old 10-15-2015, 02:11 PM
 
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Ok, I don't like most people either and don't want to talk to most people and wish most people weren't there either. But living like this is depressing. You isolate yourself for a judgment of someone that may or may not be true. And when you only talk to the people you like but make it clear you don't like another person, well those two could be good friends and the person you like now no longer likes you or won't like you. I find that seeing someone you know and not saying hi to them is rude.
didn't you get the memo? friendship isn't about "liking" the other person anymore. it is about who can take advantage of one another the most until the first friend gets married, gains 100 pounds, and ignores the other friend completely for 30 years until the other friend dies so that they can **** on their grave after the funeral.(I wish there was an option for that in sims 3)
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Old 10-15-2015, 04:07 PM
 
Location: Southwestern, USA, now.
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Ok, I don't like most people either and don't want to talk to most people and wish most people weren't there either. But living like this is depressing. You isolate yourself for a judgment of someone that may or may not be true. And when you only talk to the people you like but make it clear you don't like another person, well those two could be good friends and the person you like now no longer likes you or won't like you. I find that seeing someone you know and not saying hi to them is rude.
Always, I will repeat ALWAYS be kind.
There is no exception to this.
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Old 10-15-2015, 05:29 PM
 
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didn't you get the memo? friendship isn't about "liking" the other person anymore. it is about who can take advantage of one another the most until the first friend gets married, gains 100 pounds, and ignores the other friend completely for 30 years until the other friend dies so that they can **** on their grave after the funeral.(I wish there was an option for that in sims 3)
Who said anything about friends? Those only exist in fairy tales.

Talking to people very much means networking these days. Conversations are transactions. It's when one person trades something with another person. And if one person doesn't want what the other offers, they just ignore you.
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