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There are no women here who aren't in touch with their bodies.
I would surprised if that were true. When I was single, I was surprised at the number of well-educated, good-looking, nice, hip women who had some sort of sexual hangup, including at least one who had never had an orgasm (alone or with a partner).
I agree it's a valid point. I'm just saying that if he wants to reach his target audience in significant numbers, this isn't the venue. Going by what women here have posted in the last year, there are few (except, possibly, some lurkers) who would be among the demographic he's trying to reach. Posting on CD-R is just a drop in the bucket.
Again.....that is because many women are fearful of discussing that topic. . . . that is why perhaps you haven't seen their postings.
I am not saying women SHOULD learn to touch their own bodies, but I am saying that it might become a problem in a relationship if she does not know about how it feels to her. I am also saying that men looking for women need to be aware that certain cultures have this issue and women from these cultures often come with those ideas already installed. It is something which may not be considered and is obviously not a problem when people from the same culture get together but where people with different ideas meet it may be.
I know I keep harping back to this but our whole society is based on how we are conditioned by upbringing, culture, education and also by religion too. These are the big influences.
There are many different cultural groups living in the USA and most larger cities across the world have pockets of different races or cultures living together where they keep their roots as pure as they can. There are also religious groups in the USA which have very little outside influence from the society as a whole, no TV, no magazines, etc.
The same with some countries where the population is only exposed to sanitized content. You may have to actively go looking for sexual content to find it so the average disinterested person would not bother and sometimes it is even against laws or religious rules to do so.
The reason I asked because I'm one of those women.
I know how society feels about women and sex, but I don't care. I know sex isn't wrong and I personally don't care what people think in terms of how I live my life. Talking about sex doesn't bother me nor does it make me uncomfortable. Learning about my body sexually doesn't really interest me and I'm not really too concerned about a relationship either. The point I'm trying to make is that not ALL women suffer from this issue.
American culture, people, etc, don't affect how I feel about the subject.
A dude telling women what they should do because his peen gets bored in bed. Our savior, right here.
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I am not saying women SHOULD learn to touch their own bodies, but I am saying that it might become a problem in a relationship if she does not know about how it feels to her.
Do you see the conflicting message you're giving here?
"I'm not saying you should masturbate, but you might not have fullfilling relationships if you don't!"
Well what do you do if you get into a relationship with a woman who has a low libido? Should she pleasure herself even if she doesn't feel like it just so she can tell you what she likes?
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I would surprised if that were true. When I was single, I was surprised at the number of well-educated, good-looking, nice, hip women who had some sort of sexual hangup, including at least one who had never had an orgasm (alone or with a partner).
Not having an orgasm is one thing, but not liking something is hardly a sexual hang up. I'm pretty open minded but there are things I won't do in bed, and it's not a hang up. It's because I know I don't like them!
Not having an orgasm is one thing, but not liking something is hardly a sexual hang up. I'm pretty open minded but there are things I won't do in bed, and it's not a hang up. It's because I know I don't like them!
I'm afraid I missed the part of the thread that this refers to. Anyone is entitled for any reason to not like something. When the number of things you don't like add up to a substantial fraction of the experiences available in life, you have a problem; otherwise not.
When Tom Snyder had Nancy Friday on his show I made sure to stay up to hear what she had to say because I always learned something. Her books about sexuality are so full of great information. I wanted to know whatever there was to know, but I would never presume to know whether other women are aware of their bodies or not, because there are those who aren't and some are not young women.
I once heard an older woman insist that menses continue even after a hysterectomy.
I would surprised if that were true. When I was single, I was surprised at the number of well-educated, good-looking, nice, hip women who had some sort of sexual hangup, including at least one who had never had an orgasm (alone or with a partner).
I'm not sure how you missed it, since you're the one who said it. You didn't say multiple "hang ups" either. I was just clarifying that not wanting to do A or B isn't a sexual hang up, it's a preference.
Unfortunately it does not appear to work that way. Possibly in the movies it does, but real life is simply a different matter altogether. Unlocking can only occur where there is mutual agreement and a willingness to open the door. If that is not there because it has been ignored for many years, there is nothing to build on.
Much of the physical act goes on in our heads and if the experience is not there and the experimentation has not been interesting enough to be tried previously, there is nothing to motivate the brain to want to find out.
Of course everyone is different so I can only go on my own experience of this in a couple of instances.
You're right it takes the willingness of both people agree to the exploration. Of course, I've never been in a relationship, where the woman wasn't fully engaged in the physical side of the relationship. So I can't imagine being in a relationship with anyone who wouldn't want to unlock their full potential. It's very important to me, that my partners are on the same page. I got my eighties to be in low sex relationships.
A dude telling women what they should do because his peen gets bored in bed. Our savior, right here.
Thank you, I haven't had anyone calling me saviour yet. Thats a first.
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Do you see the conflicting message you're giving here?
"I'm not saying you should masturbate, but you might not have fullfilling relationships if you don't!"
Well what do you do if you get into a relationship with a woman who has a low libido? Should she pleasure herself even if she doesn't feel like it just so she can tell you what she likes?
No, it is too late by then. Hopefully I have found out about her libido prior to getting too involved. For some men it is a deal-breaker but I guess you dont want to hear that.
To some men, sex is very important, so important that if it does not happen (much) then they may feel it is not worth persuing the relationship. Just saying how it is for some - not all by any means so there is hope for those who are of low libido. There is even a reason (or used to be anyway) for catholic divorce I believe, called an unconsumated marriage. I think Henry VIII used it with one of his wives, but maybe thats just an urban legend.
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