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I was standing in the garage last night after going through some possessions I had never unboxed from my last move, and I realize I truly have nothing to show for all my years of hard work, possession wise. I am not counting vehicles and toys, nor money in the bank, I am talking about actual material possessions such as household goods etc.
After two divorces and all the fun that goes with losing two homes and furniture, etc, I really have nothing that I have acquired over the long run, like most people do. I have managed to hang onto very little from my past 35 years on the planet. It makes me kind of sad.
Now I know material possessions are supposedly not supposed to mean anything according to some people, but it would be nice to be able to walk into a house and be able to actually see things I have owned for years sitting there.
Does anyone else feel this way and if so, how do you get over it? Kinda been in a rut over this lately, along with some other personal things.
That is a GOOD thing. Having the amount of household stuff increase continually over time is BAD. Because this means that you'll need to move to bigger and bigger houses. Apart from the rich, this is not feasible.
I went through the" looking for love in all the wrong places" phase also and when it hits home, one has to take a good look at their life and ask themselves "what am I doing wrong ? "
Time to start over again and take care of number 1 as that's you're all that you really have.
You came into this world alone and will go out of it alone.
it's up to you as to how you want to be treated and how you want to live your life's journey.
Be kind to yourself !
What possessions? Old, ugly dishes, vases and other cheesy outdated stuff? Many people are way to obsessed about old stuff.
I change most furniture, dishes and everything every 5-10 years to keep it all modern and cool, depending on where I live. I don't see the point in keeping grandmas old stuff just because it was grandmas old stuff. NEW is better.
I still have a few pots from when I had my first apartment, they were expensive so I can't throw them away. Sometimes I wish they break so I can buy new ones without feeling guilty.
I never go into somebody's house and find old stuff laying around worth looking at. Look at all the rich peoples houses - clean, sleak, no unneccessary BS standing around. It's prettier and less dusty.
That is a GOOD thing. Having the amount of household stuff increase continually over time is BAD. Because this means that you'll need to move to bigger and bigger houses. Apart from the rich, this is not feasible.
I agree. It means you haven't accumulated a lot of clutter. If you want nice furniture, go out and buy some. Or buy one piece at a time, savoring the experience, and building a small collection of prized pieces. Look for unique items or a style that especially appeals to you. I like Asian furniture, myself. Each piece is like a work of art.
What possessions? Old, ugly dishes, vases and other cheesy outdated stuff? Many people are way to obsessed about old stuff.
I change most furniture, dishes and everything every 5-10 years to keep it all modern and cool, depending on where I live. I don't see the point in keeping grandmas old stuff just because it was grandmas old stuff. NEW is better.
I still have a few pots from when I had my first apartment, they were expensive so I can't throw them away. Sometimes I wish they break so I can buy new ones without feeling guilty.
I never go into somebody's house and find old stuff laying around worth looking at. Look at all the rich peoples houses - clean, sleak, no unneccessary BS standing around. It's prettier and less dusty.
You're fortunate to be able to afford that. It's extremely expensive to replace all that. Most people buy furniture and dishes for a lifetime, unless they buy cheap laminate items, or something.
I was standing in the garage last night after going through some possessions I had never unboxed from my last move, and I realize I truly have nothing to show for all my years of hard work, possession wise. I am not counting vehicles and toys, nor money in the bank, I am talking about actual material possessions such as household goods etc.
After two divorces and all the fun that goes with losing two homes and furniture, etc, I really have nothing that I have acquired over the long run, like most people do. I have managed to hang onto very little from my past 35 years on the planet. It makes me kind of sad.
Now I know material possessions are supposedly not supposed to mean anything according to some people, but it would be nice to be able to walk into a house and be able to actually see things I have owned for years sitting there.
Does anyone else feel this way and if so, how do you get over it? Kinda been in a rut over this lately, along with some other personal things.
I'd say that was your choice. If those things mattered to you, you would have bought them and kept them.
It's just material possessions. Material possessions break, get lost, stolen, get damaged, wear out. So you just have to buy more of 'em.
You must have furniture. Do you sit on the floor? You must have dishes and pots, right?
Not sure what you mean. Do you mean family heirlooms? I have some things I inherited, and they're really just in the way, and the style isn't my style.
It's good not to have a bunch of junk. Minimalist is the thing these days.
I am not of the opinion that it is best to have as little in the way of possessions as possible. I do believe in buying what you need, purging from time to time, and not going overboard via hoarding. But some of the things I've had since my early marriage, things given me by my mom and grandmother, etc, are indeed precious to me. So, I understand how you feel the lack of similar items.
In order to feel connected, in the way that owning something special makes you feel connected, locate snapshots or photos of some of your good memories. Treat them with respect by having them enlarged and/or framed for your place. I think these could be the touchstones from your past that you feel you lack now.
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