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Jhagoods, I'm glad you reached out and expressed your feelings. And getting therapy is an excellent first step.
One thing you could try, and I'm only saying this because I heard of a guy who quit his addiction to a medication... and he also changed his body clock because he was staying up all night. He just got as much sunlight as he could, during the day. And if possible, get morning sun and setting sun rays. This may sound strange but our brains need sunlight. And using cellphones and computers have a blue light, which isn't good for the body. If you google: "Blue light has a dark side" you'll see an article about it. This is one reason, in my opinion, that so many people have sleep issues. You can get free software for your computer and phone which will block the blue light. It's called f.lux. Also, try to not use the computer at night.
Another idea would be to talk to a holistic doc because you may need certain natural supplements since your brain chemistry may lacking some nutrients. Brain chemistry is complicated and when things aren't balanced, it can cause all kinds of issues with emotions, addictions and depression.
And perhaps look into EMDR and/or tapping. I know someone who was scared as a kid a lot, and the EMDR healed it, so that people could walk behind this person and they wouldn't be scared. Massage therapy is also good and helps to release trauma that is stored in the muscles. I think most massage schools will give free bodywork as they are studying.
And if you believe in God - prayer and also meditation. Best wishes in your healing!
The bolded. It's a very effective--miraculous, if you ask me--treatment for trauma, and it only takes a few sessions, if it's a good practitioner. It gives people their life back, if you know what I mean. You can Google it + your locale + "psychotherapist" or therapist/counselor, and see who comes up.
OP, lots of people go their whole lives and never have the insight that you seem to. So congratulations for that! (In fact, your father probably felt the same way--out of control and angry--but never came to terms with it.)
Do seek a good therapist--someone you're comfortable with but who also challenges you. Depending on where you live, there may be support groups in your community for sex addiction, gambling addiction and narcotics addiction. There may also be anger management support groups. And you don't say whether you've been physically abusive toward your wife, but if you have, there may be groups that target abusive men. If those groups are available, try all of them and see if there are any that speak to you.
Yep, lots of great advice.
However, you then repeat again...I'm controlling, I'm this and that....
It's like watching a person in a house fire screaming when the firemen have placed a ladder for them.
Just knock it off...for one week...stop controlling and the other stuff.
Just stop...you will like it....and yourself much better.
A week is nothing I could eat white rice for a week!
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