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Originally Posted by GKelly
I thought it would relate to people and make me seem vulnerable and open?
An example is every time I finish sharing my work, I say something like, but yeah, I don't know, that's what I came up with... Or if I'm around friends I'll say something about how I struggle to speak with people. I'm still so surprised at how most people in American culture try and act tough. I'm first to admit wrong and be modest but people just see that as a sign of weakness. I really don't think I'm weak. And I don't complain either. At least that's not how I see it. I only show my insecurities as an attempt to connect with people, trying to be modest, or to ask them for help with it.
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Never apologize about your work, unless there is a problem with it. If people compliment you about it, say, "Thanks!"
Most of us are not confident about every part of our lives. But imagine if we were always apologizing about it. How boring.
Don't offer up your weakness to people. Some will take advantage and/or see you as weak.
But don't do bravado, either. Try to find a version of yourself that is easy to be around. Say kind things to others, and do a good job at work. Be helpful, and don't shirk the hard stuff. If you do that, you'll be fine.