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I was curious to learn about the key difference between an extrovert and an introvert brain, and what makes us feel so drained in certain environments, so I looked up a quick read and here's a possible answer which other fellow introverts and beloved extroverts may find interesting.
Thanks for the article. Just yesterday, I had to interact a whole lot for hours it seemed. Frankly, I enjoyed most of it, but I was also trying to escape, and I was utterly pooped out afterwords.
In retrospect, I think that is one reason why when I was in the college dorms, interacting and living in very close proximately to so many people I was often overtired, even when I had a lot of sleep. I was too young to realize it was a bit against my nature.
When I have been out more than a few days in a row it takes me a day or so to recuperate. I just want to stay in and not even answer my phone. Thank goodness I took early retirement.
I read the thing about being an introverted extrovert and im about 99% sure thats me because I am very outgoing for the most part and want to be out and about, but basically on my terms and when I am comfortable in a social situation, otherwise I would rather stay home. How would one deal with this?
I read the thing about being an introverted extrovert and im about 99% sure thats me because I am very outgoing for the most part and want to be out and about, but basically on my terms and when I am comfortable in a social situation, otherwise I would rather stay home. How would one deal with this?
Interesting article, and I can completely relate with becoming worn out after being with a group of people. I like to interact with others, but in small groups...anything larger than say, 7-8 people and I start getting stressed, and find that I don't enjoy myself at all. I just want to leave. So when the company I work for holds its annual workshop for all staff (50+ employees), I absolutely dread going, even though I work with really nice people, and even though the workshops are geared toward a relaxing, fun atmosphere.
I hate crowded areas. Hate malls. Hate a lot of noise. Give me a quiet setting with a garden or an open field, or just relaxing in front of the tv at home, and I'm in heaven. Interestingly though, my sister is the complete opposite of me. She's an extrovert, and even just going to visit her can play absolute havoc on me. I find that once I'm there, within 5 minutes I am fighting the urge to go home - even though I'd looked forward to the visit. My sis has two teenagers who are very loud (they often shout rather than speak in a normal tone), and they often have their friends over; she has a dog barks a lot - has a very high, sharp bark - and an extremely loud parrot...when he starts squawking he doesn't stop, and he drowns out everything. Oh, and the tv is usually turned on an turned up, even if no one is watching it. It's a very hectic, chaotic household, and my sister thrives on it. For me, if I had to spend more than a couple of hours there I'd go crazy. Funny how the two of us came from the same parents... we're as different as night and day.
My DH says I am an extrovert. I do not identify as an introvert. I want to assure you that interacting with people for several hours is draining for me.
I worked for years at a job where I talked to people all the time. I was mentally exhausted many, many evenings.
My DH says I am an extrovert. I do not identify as an introvert. I want to assure you that interacting with people for several hours is draining for me.
I worked for years at a job where I talked to people all the time. I was mentally exhausted many, many evenings.
That's what an introvert is. (The bold.)
Too many people think introversion is a synonym for nerdy or awkward or shy or someone with social anxiety. It's not.
Something interesting from the article when it speaks about the para vs. sympathetic nervous systems. It says, "Thinking is reduced, and we become prepared to make snap decisions." in the sympathetic, which is where extroverts usually are when they feel energized. Does this translate into more extroverts doing silly or unsafe things when out and about? Or is it just peer pressure (or alcohol).
My DH says I am an extrovert. I do not identify as an introvert. I want to assure you that interacting with people for several hours is draining for me.
I worked for years at a job where I talked to people all the time. I was mentally exhausted many, many evenings.
It sounds like you could be more of an ambivert than an extrovert, then.
Ambiverts are in the middle between introversion and extroversion, and can feel drained when they're around many people but they don't really identify as introverts.
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Originally Posted by Murk
That's what an introvert is. (The bold.)
Too many people think introversion is a synonym for nerdy or awkward or shy or someone with social anxiety. It's not.
Something interesting from the article when it speaks about the para vs. sympathetic nervous systems. It says, "Thinking is reduced, and we become prepared to make snap decisions." in the sympathetic, which is where extroverts usually are when they feel energized. Does this translate into more extroverts doing silly or unsafe things when out and about? Or is it just peer pressure (or alcohol).
Interesting stuff.
No, I think that's just peer pressure and alcohol (United to wreck havoc).
They just happen to be more likely to sucumb to both of them, at least when they're younger when you're most likely to be called a party pooper if you don't binge drink. Plenty of introverts fall for it, too, when they're still trying to figure out what's going on, why can't they enjoy partying as much as other teens? When we play pretend and try to behave as the extroverts do because everyone insists that's how healthy people behave.
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