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I am basically looking for a book on childhood development, which will help me to understand how to cure stunted emotional growth in adults.
I do not have access to academic resources right now (on winter break from school).
My public library does not have a large selection on this topic, other than how to raise your child - which will not help me - that ship has sailed.
Mods, please move if this is in the incorrect forum (I was considering either 'Books', or 'Mental Health')
Friend what you are looking for are books on "adult children". They (me being one myself) are the product of helicopter/overbearing/abusive parents, especially those parents who vivaciously live life through their children, creepy! Go to google or amazon and type in adult children books. Also, look up Julie Lythcott-Haims, this woman gets it. She is a light of hope for me.
Also, for further reference, just to help you in the real world, look up books on adulting.
Also see books on transactional analysis and self-reparenting.
Do wounded children stay that way? Some healing depends on the degree of damage and individual potential and motivation. Support and role-modeling of healthy behavior are important.
I believe that painful events in our lives, when pondered, will always feel painful to us and I don't think the goal of self-improvement is to erase the pain. The goal is to accept what has happened, recognize the ways it has harmed us and offer us new ways of thinking and behaving going forward so that we don't keep repeating the old interactions in our adult lives.
The biggest barriers to renewal are shortage of services and personal denial, I think.
Trauma may result in stunting emotional growth. Effectively, the individual's emotional psyche is frozen at the age at which the trauma occurred.
Unfortunately, I tend to agree with you, especially if the problem stems from trauma.
If the person was over parented, then possibly some experience will jolt him or her out of childishness. But over parented children tend to feel they deserve things. They feel entitled. I am not sure how people outgrow this.
Unfortunately, I tend to agree with you, especially if the problem stems from trauma.
If the person was over parented, then possibly some experience will jolt him or her out of childishness. But over parented children tend to feel they deserve things. They feel entitled. I am not sure how people outgrow this.
Since Mircea won't answer my question, why do you think that it is hopeless? I am specifically speaking of trauma.
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