I just realized something sad, I miss my car more than any woman I've ever gone out with (college, issues)
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3 weeks ago I was being stupid and lost control of my car. I totaled it against state property. It was a high powered RWD coupe. Nothing happened to me. I invested a lot of time and resources to personalize it and maintained it every weekend. It didn't really hit me until now.
I decided not to get the same car, because I didn't want to repeat all that time and resources all over again. I picked something more practical, an AWD SUV.
I just realized something that makes me question my priorities in life. I miss my old car more than anyone I've ever casually dated or hooked up with. I've never been interested in a serious relationship, and still am not.
Right now I'm not sure if how I feel is a good thing, because I don't get emotionally invested into other people and I feel bad because the crash was 100% my fault, or if this speaks to other issues and needing to reassess what I value in life.
I'm hoping what I'm feeling right now, 3 weeks after the accident, will eventually subside. I don't feel like partying or seeing anyone. Only working full time and bettering myself and getting back in shape.
You may be figuring out that "being stupid" has its pleasures and also its limitations. It is fairly normal to take stock of how your life is really working out for you.
I don't know that it's automatically a Bad Thing not to have had any serious relationships or commitments yet, particularly if you're young -- say, still in college. There truly is no hurry there, and your lack of urgency is, in my view, actually an advantage, since it seems like most people rush into relationships before they fully know themselves or are really ready.
If you think you are overly superficial, or alienated, you simply make a few changes to nudge things in a better direction. The very fact you're concerned about it suggests that you are inherently better than that. It's just a growth process.
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Since you have never had a serious relationship with a woman, your attachment to a car is undstandable. I had to give up my 1972 El Camino when times were tough in the recession, and spent several years trying to get over it, but my wife and home were more important. Eventually, just last December I was financially able to get another muscle car, but with grandkids now safety has become more important so I decided on a new Challenger rather than a classic. I bet you will one day get another car you will love, even if you do find a woman that you care about more.
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