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I'm not sure if this is the right place but a I have a question that is very important to me, that would seem to belong in this section.
I would like to ask if it is possible to overcome bodyimage issues without having surgery.
My problem is I was born in a country where circumcision is not common, therefore I am uncircumcised.
I moved to the United States at a young age, and quickly discovered through media, rumors etc.that many women would find me unacttractive for being uncircumcised.
My question is; is there any way to overcome my insecurity about being uncircumcised without having to have the opearation?
I have posted this question before in the relationships forum.
I really would like to exahust all other options before I decide on getting this operation.
I don't really mind being uncircumcised, it's just my cultures opinion (eg. appearing more americanized)that would lead me to make the decision to have this operation performed.
You should do what makes you feel the most comfortable but as a woman with lots of woman friends.....none of us have ever been turned off (pardon the pun) by an uncircumcised partner. I can safely say this was more of an issue for them than for us.
I will also add that many families in the U.S. have made the decision to NOT circumcise their babies because they are choosing to not remove something that the package came with. It's unnecessary.
Maybe you could speak to a therapist to see if this body image stems from some other place. I mean if you do operate is that really going to fix all of your problems??
IF I were a man & I wanted to do it; I would. But if I were a man & DIDN'T want to do it but some woman DID want me to do it; I think I would rather lose the woman than my foreskin.
Since I AM a woman I can say that this would not even factor in to my finding a man attractive or not. Ideally I would find a man attractive BEFORE I saw his penis anyway.
If this is a make or break for a woman to be attracted to you, then she's got other issues you should worry about rather than if your richard is circumcised or not.
You should do what makes you feel the most comfortable but as a woman with lots of woman friends.....none of us have ever been turned off (pardon the pun) by an uncircumcised partner. I can safely say this was more of an issue for them than for us.
I will also add that many families in the U.S. have made the decision to NOT circumcise their babies because they are choosing to not remove something that the package came with. It's unnecessary.
We chose not to. We had no cultural tradition around the practice either way, and preferred to avoid elective surgical procedures.
I'm not sure if this is the right place but a I have a question that is very important to me, that would seem to belong in this section.
I would like to ask if it is possible to overcome body-image issues without having surgery.
My problem is I was born in a country where circumcision is not common, therefore I am uncircumcised.
I moved to the United States at a young age, and quickly discovered through media, rumors etc.that many women would find me unattractive for being uncircumcised.
My question is; is there any way to overcome my insecurity about being uncircumcised without having to have the operation?
I have posted this question before in the relationships forum.
I really would like to exhaust all other options before I decide on getting this operation.
I don't really mind being uncircumcised, it's just my cultures opinion (eg. appearing more Americanized) that would lead me to make the decision to have this operation performed.
Consider yourself fortunate for not having this atrocity carried out on you. Genital mutilation is a barbaric practice that has been done to both boys and girls for too long. They should be left as Nature made them. What is taken away, is important to protect delicate parts from damage. It's a type of branding, just as cattle have the icon of a ranch burned into their hides.
But if a woman is in a position to see you in the way you suggest, she would not likely be thinking that it was a shortcoming. She'd be occupied with the positive benefits it was providing her. And here's a tip: (no pun intended) when it has assumed its launching position, you can't easily tell one way or the other.
Also, as a woman, I'll just say that I never had any strong preferences regarding this in a partner one way or another. It may not be as big a deal as the OP fears.
^^^ This.
It's all in between people's ears ... what women think of (un)circumcision as well as what males think of it.
My wife and I each have biological sons and we didn't circumcise them. In all honesty, I have felt that being circumcised has decreased my ability to enjoy sex and to perform sexually, as it has a tendency to make one uncomfortably oversensitive at just the, er, critical moments. From what I have read, males with an intact g l a n s tend to have a better overall experience. But apart from that, both my wife and I just felt that leaving nature alone is generally the better way to go. Both of us of course had to educate our sons on proper hygiene in ways that we wouldn't have had to if they were circumcised, but this is a pretty minor issue.
So I would not advise the OP to have any sort of operation just because of some questionable concern that "most" women will find it weird. And as someone else pointed out ... do you really want to be with a woman who is that incredibly superficial??
What are some techniques I can use to get the insecurities out of my head and what is a good way to ignore negative comments I might hear in movies etc.?
What are some techniques I can use to get the insecurities out of my head and what is a good way to ignore negative comments I might hear in movies etc.?
The same way you ignore comments and opinions about politics/politicians or food preferences or whether or not it's better to live in the Northeast or Southwest that you don't agree with
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