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This is kind of just a funny thing, but I also truly wonder about it. I've known some people who always, not just "often" but always, leave drawers partly pulled out, cabinets partly opened, and closets partly opened.
I remember I had a teacher in high school who always left her desk drawers pulled out 1-2 inches. Students would make jokes about it, and she would say that she does it at her house too, and her husband was always going around closing them.
Throughout the years I've worked with, or been friends with, people who I noticed do the same thing. Like the friend whose bedroom closet is NEVER closed, and whose drawers are always open.
Then I lived with a partner for 12+ years, and he was like this. Every bedroom drawer: open a few inches. Closet door: open. Bathroom cabinet: opened just enough so that the magnetic latch won't connect. Kitchen cabinets: same. He moved out a few years ago, and ever since, I've made sure every cabinet door and drawer are closed. It take just as long and just as much effort to close the all the way as it does to close them part-way. He and I are still friends and when I go to his house: all open. He happens to be sloppy, but the other friend I mentioned above was not sloppy; everything seemed to be in its place at her house, but nothing was ever shut.
My ex was just at my house this week, and he had to get out scissors for something, and after he left, I found the damned kitchen drawer open about 1 inch.
Do you know someone like this? What do you think it is? It could just be carelessness, but to do it almost 100% of the time, to me, take some effort. It's almost like a rare OCD thing.
Many years ago, a college friend of my ex came to visit for a week or so. He NEVER closed a cabinet door or drawer. Ever. I spent a few days silently closing doors and drawers, to avoid hitting them in the dark. The final straw was when I walked in to find him in the middle of his other weird habit: staring out the picture window, calmly brushing his teeth, stark naked. Buh bye. He was sent packing right away.
My husband has an area - the top of his dresser - that generally looks like a bomb went off on it. The top of my vanity looks like a a piece of glass - because that's what it is. I don't like the look of his dresser top but I don't ever say anything about it for several reasons:
1. It's his one area of clutter.
2. It's not in a living area of the home, but in our bedroom, which is private.
3. He doesn't say anything about my stack of magazines on the ottoman in the living room and the tower of books on my side of the bed.
I swear we're married to the same man. LOL
I think a lot of my husband's "nothing in its place" mentality is that he's usually deep in thought, or doesn't want to think after a hard day of work. He's a person that just puts things down where he happens to be walking past. I put things where I've decided they belong. Neither of us is right or wrong. And if I find something of his where it's in my way, I just put it on the huge pile on his dresser.
And whenever I feel myself getting frustrated because he doesn't do things "my" way, I remind myself that a) I'm sure I do lots of things that drive him nuts, and b) someday, when he's no longer here, I will miss finding his things randomly around the house.
It annoys me when people leave their desk drawer handle so extremely loose that it's literally about to fall off, and don't take a few seconds to tighten the screw in back.
And when business owners / custodians leave public toilet seats extremely loose and floppy, and never tighten the screw underneath, using a coin.
Thankfully this is not part of our problem. My husband tends to be neat and clean but just very disorganized - and he's always, always working on organizing something - the garage, his nightstand, his closet, his suitcase, his toolbox, his truck...you name it. He always keeps them neat, but disorganized if that makes sense.
I didn't read all your posts but this is a classic description of ADD and back in the day Ritalin would have fixed this problem. I know it's controversial and perhaps now there are different choices.
The half life is short.
My son was EXACTLY the same way and found real relief being able to organize his Christmas gifts like baseball cards by the end of the day when he tried using it on Christmas one year....instead of just math tests. Prior Christmases he'd be upset and frustrated after spending all day and not achieving his goals.
Many years ago, a college friend of my ex came to visit for a week or so. He NEVER closed a cabinet door or drawer. Ever. I spent a few days silently closing doors and drawers, to avoid hitting them in the dark. The final straw was when I walked in to find him in the middle of his other weird habit: staring out the picture window, calmly brushing his teeth, stark naked. Buh bye. He was sent packing right away.
I know, right? I mean, why does he have to brush his teeth there?
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