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My sister is just starting to process it all and seems to want me to spend more time. It is a lot to juggle. Today several friends came to visit at the hospital and I was there for 6 hours. I got home feeling exhausted and starving to death.
I'm trying to balance supporting her and myself. It's hard.
My sister is just starting to process it all and seems to want me to spend more time. It is a lot to juggle. Today several friends came to visit at the hospital and I was there for 6 hours. I got home feeling exhausted and starving to death.
I'm trying to balance supporting her and myself. It's hard.
She's probably feeling very vulnerable right now and that's understandable, but I'm sure once she's recovered a bit more she'll realize that she was maybe expecting a little too much from you.
She's probably feeling very vulnerable right now and that's understandable, but I'm sure once she's recovered a bit more she'll realize that she was maybe expecting a little too much from you.
She will hopefully be out of the hospital on Tuesday so I am trying to push through.
It's normal. Some people get overwhelmed when dealing with tons of family and friends on a constant basis.
Sometimes that's too much to ask of some people. Like for me. When it comes to family members, I usually don't wanna be bothered with them daily. Once a week is good enough. If I start seeing them multiple times in a week, I am tired of them. And depending on my mood, even once a week is a bit much. lol
Plus as you mentioned, it's during a stressful time with a loved one. So sometimes people wanting to gather around and talk about that doesn't help. My father and I agreed with that. When his mother died, he and I talked about the fact that people won't leave you alone, and always wanna call and talk to you. And many times, people want to be left alone.
I remember seeing the post on tumblr that mentions it. You're upset and trying not to cry. You're trying to go about your business. Then someone comes up to ask what's wrong and make a further case of it, and it releases the tears. I have had that happen.
I thought it would get better now that she is out of the hospital, but now I am getting pestered by various relatives. My aunt who I previously talked to a few times a year texts looking for daily updates and to complain my sister isn't calling back. I did a group text to all the extended family who have been calling/texting me for updates and my dad suddenly wants me to include even more relatives.
Mom is staying with her and dad was sent home. Now dad wants daily updates too in case they ar too busy to pick up the phone between resting and medication.
She has been out of the hospital 2 days and hasn't even had a chance to rest and everyone is calling me to check in.
I thought it would get better now that she is out of the hospital, but now I am getting pestered by various relatives. My aunt who I previously talked to a few times a year texts looking for daily updates and to complain my sister isn't calling back. I did a group text to all the extended family who have been calling/texting me for updates and my dad suddenly wants me to include even more relatives.
Mom is staying with her and dad was sent home. Now dad wants daily updates too in case they ar too busy to pick up the phone between resting and medication.
She has been out of the hospital 2 days and hasn't even had a chance to rest and everyone is calling me to check in.
Are most people on Facebook? Are you? That's another good way to send a mass message/update to everyone all at the same time. I would also try adding to your updates something like, "I will let you know if something is wrong, otherwise, if I can't get back to you right away, it's safe to assume no news is good news and she's improving as expected".
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