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Ah; I think I understand. I DON'T think I do THAT.
I just meant that I'm aware that my demeanor changes when I interact with a guy. It does not matter if he is 17 or 70. The way I talk, act & carry myself changes.
I think your talking about something different than what I do. I THINK your talking about women who are flamboyant to the point of desperation, in order to garner some kind of response from a guy?
That could be taken as a form of self-flattery but to the extent that it serves to somewhat alienate the other females that the guy may actually be interested in?
Like playing "hard-to-get" when you already know she'd be "easy"?
I think what you describe here regarding behavior changes around different people is a fascinating aspect of human social behavior that applies to everyone, everywhere. Most people are almost always wearing some type of social mask; rarely is a person completely unmasked or unfiltered. We are all social chameleons who change our personas based on a number of social factors, and one of those factors is sexual attraction. A sexually attractive person represents a highly valued resource, and the more desirable the resource, the more motivated we are to adopt behaviors and actions that will increase our chances of obtaining that resource.
We are all prolific actors whether we are aware of it or not. What professional actors do on screen we do basically every day: we play roles and follow scripts and 'act' in ways which we feel will increase our chances of success and happiness.
Yes. It's not a question of women flattering themselves so much, but of a type of human behavior in a mating context. Maybe we should be asking why the OP never notices when men do the same.
Probably because he is a heterosexual male who has no reason to pay much attention to how males act when interacting with women.
I think what you describe here regarding behavior changes around different people is a fascinating aspect of human social behavior that applies to everyone, everywhere. Most people are almost always wearing some type of social mask; rarely is a person completely unmasked or unfiltered. We are all social chameleons who change our personas based on a number of social factors, and one of those factors is sexual attraction. A sexually attractive person represents a highly valued resource, and the more desirable the resource, the more motivated we are to adopt behaviors and actions that will increase our chances of obtaining that resource.
We are all prolific actors whether we are aware of it or not. What professional actors do on screen we do basically every day: we play roles and follow scripts and 'act' in ways which we feel will increase our chances of success and happiness.
"Social Chameleon" ... I like that. Do you think that is learned behavior? I almost feel as though I am not in total control of it. I may recognize that I did it AFTERWARDS.
Like the action of biting my lip. Or putting a finger in my mouth ... it sounds stupid but I do that & then I think "Okay; get a grip."
Yes. It's not a question of women flattering themselves so much, but of a type of human behavior in a mating context. Maybe we should be asking why the OP never notices when men do the same.
We have.
He hasn't answered.
That particular question appears to be being avoided by the OP as well as the others who have boarded the "ZOMG you're right, all women do this!" train.
It's a topic of discussion. CD is filled with thousands of other topics which people thought worthy or interesting enough to warrant creating a thread topic. Nothing more. Just a topic of discussion. Certain topics appeal to certain people, others don't. Variety of life.
Yeah, I don't think so. "Oh, it's just a theoretical discussion" is a deflector whenever these posters get called out on their agenda. It's not just a lighthearted convo when the "question" is really just veiled disdain about some group of people. I believe the technical term is "gaslighting".
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