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Some people out there get showed with attention like gifts, time devoted to them and compliments given to them while others get absolutely nothing of that kind and are ignored even though some of them are just as worthy for such attention of the other some people, so why is this case, What factors to this are there?
That is all there is to it. Men don't give a **** about how smart you think you are. Not saying this to be mean, just being honest. It's one of the reasons I just lol at women who spend their entire youth educating themselves and getting a carrier, and then complain that nobody wants them anymore once they are older and start to actually date.
OP, I'm not sure your question is related to the dating arena, specifically, or to life in general. However, yes, the more attractive one is, the smoother the path in society. Attractive individuals are served better, given the right of way more often, treated more kindly, garner more compliments, etc. It's the way of the world.
That pool looks OK. At least there is SOME water in it! You have to be optimistic when you get to my age (65). Gender has nothing to do w/ it, trust me. It's a human condition in Western society, especially as we age.
I love the question, and will tell you that in my experience, those people that are sincere and good get kicked to the side, and those that are vain and insincere have LOTS of friends! You could go nuts trying to figure it out, so best to simply let it go, observe things, and see what comes up for you.
It makes sense though, because any fool can see that our society is run by the wrong values, so if you have good values you will be in the minority and have less chance of making good friends. The key words here are "good friends". Just because someone flatters you and gives you a lot of attention does not necessarily mean that they are sincere. If I were to go back to drugging and drinking I would have no end of "friends", but would I want those types around me? As we get healthier, the pool begins to look like the one above, but as I said, the pool at least does exist. We just have to work harder to get in there and have a nice swim w/ others. As long as we like ourselves and stick to our values we can't go wrong.
OP, I'm not sure your question is related to the dating arena, specifically, or to life in general. However, yes, the more attractive one is, the smoother the path in society. Attractive individuals are served better, given the right of way more often, treated more kindly, garner more compliments, etc. It's the way of the world.
That is a bunch of hooey in a hand basket when it comes to the actual real world.
Many are treated the way they treat others and physical attraction which is in the eye of the beholder is not a guarantee of personable attraction.
It is a really good stereotype to continue to shove down everyone's throat though........
Some people are good at orchestrating that kind of attention, OP. Others aren't; some people are raised in families that discount them or worse, so they may have a deep-seated belief that they're not worthy,though not on a conscious level. So they're unaware that they project a sort of "I'm nothing" vibe. Other people are shy, and give out subtle signals that they don't want to be the center of attention.
But to some extent, attractiveness has something to do with it, IMO. There's more to it than that, though.
I love the question, and will tell you that in my experience, those people that are sincere and good get kicked to the side, and those that are vain and insincere have LOTS of friends! You could go nuts trying to figure it out, so best to simply let it go, observe things, and see what comes up for you.
I've noticed a tendency toward this, but it also seems that the sincere, good people are noticed and appreciated if they're outgoing and outspoken to some degree. If they're shy or subdued, they tend to get overlooked or run over.
That is all there is to it. Men don't give a **** about how smart you think you are. Not saying this to be mean, just being honest. It's one of the reasons I just lol at women who spend their entire youth educating themselves and getting a carrier, and then complain that nobody wants them anymore once they are older and start to actually date.
The female dating pool after 30:
haha, seriously? One can only conclude that you're not active in the 30+ dating pool. How old are you, anyway? Not old enough to know what's going on with the 30-something ladies, apparently.
This can depend on a number different factors that don't have anything to do with looks. Perhaps someone relates to someone so much that that they may be more friendly toward that person or do them favors... Some people may feel sorry for some people and may feel obligated to give back and want to make their lives easier. Some people get a lot more attention than others and there is no point to overthink it....
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