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... he said in the middle of their fight he said ok this not going any where and he wants to go out the door but the ex stopped him and was slapping him and that's when he said, he pushed her in the corner or something? Is that qualified really as domestic violence?
What do I think of the domestic violence expert who claims to have been in two violent marriages?
It's a lot easier to acknowledge other people's problems and tell them how to fix them than it is to see your own. Perhaps that's how she avoids having to do the difficult work of changing herself. She certainly has a blind spot when it comes to choosing partners.
I know some are tempted to say that "woman as victim" has no need to change but I think her case illustrates otherwise very well.
If one man strikes another man, and that second man knocks out the first one, that is considered self defense.
Now insert a female into the equation. A woman strikes a man, the man defends himself by pushing her away or even striking her back. It is not self defense but abuse.
Now insert a female into the equation. A woman strikes a man, the man defends himself by pushing her away or even striking her back. It is not self defense but abuse.
Even more so. If this scenario happens on the street or in a place of business, it's simple battery, a low-level misdemeanor. If the same thing happens in the couple's home, it's domestic violence, a much higher-level misdemeanor.
Until the laws change, I will NEVER live with a woman. Not that I will ever hit her, but she will say I did it, in retaliation for something petty.
Until the laws change, I will NEVER live with a woman. Not that I will ever hit her, but she will say I did it, in retaliation for something petty.
The discussion is about the woman the OP described in his/her topic starter, and about her motivations. It's not about domestic violence in general. IMO.
Jeez, you'd never live with a woman? I feel sorry for you. You greatly lack trust to the point of possible clinical paranoia.
Why has there been a sudden rash of OP's posting about things other people unrelated to them in any way do, then asking internet strangers to voice an opinion?
Concerning the OP's original question, we do not have enough information to make any kind of judgement.
Unfortunately, it often comes down to who has the better lawyer and what the judge is like and the jurisdiction in general. Once a judge declares it is domestic violence, that is pretty much it. Whoever loses in court, whether guilty of abuse (or neglect or any other thing) or innocent, you are screwed.
My instinct would be to have nothing to do with her (romantically).
Oh God YES! I really hope she remains single forever. I really feel sorry for the next poor guy. I already know where it will end up. And those poor kids of her. Especially my husband's son.
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And those poor kids of her. Especially my husband's son.