What kind of woman is this? (addiction, inability, abusive, men)
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Thank you!!! The 2nd husband has money and works as Hospital exec/admin/president something like that. I saw in court he filed for divorce the very next day she filed the domestic violence case.
Your husband gave up his parental rights after paying no child support - he was the woman's first husband. Doesn't sound like a great guy to me - sorry. I have no idea whether he was violent in the marriage but HE voluntarily gave up his son for adoption. To this woman's second husband.
You are fixated on this woman, even though they've been divorced for close to twenty years. You need to leave this woman and her entire life (and her son) alone.
WOW! They been divorced for 20 years and Asianrocker is still obsessed with her. That's REALLY messed up. What a mess she is. She needs to get into counseling before she ruins her marriage over it.
It is not like I am contacting them. My husband always get angry when I want to know more and ask more about what happened. So I have to resort to Sherlock Holmes-ing it.
And was shocked on what I found out. But if my husband is a stay at home dad that took care of their son when they were married. You have to give him a benefit of the doubt on why all of a sudden he has no relationship with his son. Don't you think? It certainly does not look like he was a deadbeat from the get go.
By the way it was his sister that told me that he was the one who took care of their son. Because I ask her why he does not want to have kids anymore.
He took care of his son and that's why he doesn't want more kids. Sounds like he didn't enjoy taking care of his son. Was he doing it because he was unemployed and his wife had a job?
Interesting you said that. I actually told my husband they are Bat s#!t crazy chick magnet. Only exception is me.
His 2 bros are divorced with legitimate Bat s#!t crazies. One is actually having custody battle with his baby mama.
The other, the older loser bro living with us has recently loan a GF his car, and total wrecked it coz she is DUI.
I know coz my husband went into his room to look at something and I just heard him say.... waaaaaat? And I was like what? And he showed me a paper that his car was impounded with the GF arrested for DUI.
Sounds like your whole family makes terrible choices in partners. Have you ever wondered about that?
I was worried early in our marriage. Now, no. I actually told him and I think he said he like my answer. When he told me on our very very first meeting about the son situation and that the ex has something to do with it.
I said, oh I understand because my 2 brothers has same (psycho) women and their I will use the kid against you situation.
My 1 bro is STILL with the psycho woman. ALWAYS using the kid against the men to punish them, hurt them is just so freaking selfish. Do they not know they are also punishing their own children with this vile action?
I just can't with this women. Really.
Wait a minute!!!! One of the ex-husband's is YOUR husband? You left that HUGE detail out in your OP. Move on with your life! Knock off this freaky obsession with the ex-wife. She is NONE of your concern. As far as she's concerned, you got yourself a pile of trash that she did not want. I'll never understand why people post threads like this. Get over yourself!
It is not like I am contacting them. My husband always get angry when I want to know more and ask more about what happened. So I have to resort to Sherlock Holmes-ing it.
And was shocked on what I found out. But if my husband is a stay at home dad that took care of their son when they were married. You have to give him a benefit of the doubt on why all of a sudden he has no relationship with his son. Don't you think? It certainly does not look like he was a deadbeat from the get go.
By the way it was his sister that told me that he was the one who took care of their son. Because I ask her why he does not want to have kids anymore.
It's been 20 FREAKING YEARS! GET OVER IT!!!
Just because someone is a stay at home parent does NOT mean that they were a good parent. He could have been the world's laziest man and didn't want to work. He could have stayed home all day drinking alcohol, he could have stay home watching porn all day, he could have been home all day abusing the child, etc.
It says a lot about a person who WILLINGLY gives up their child and let's someone else ADOPT that child!
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Originally Posted by asianrocker
Unfortunately I don't know how that even happen and yes it really is saying something about him. I live in the now and he treats me right.
So I don't know what to tell you. Why you keep telling me to stop anyway? LOL. I am replying to my thread posters. WTF.
If you truly lived in the now, you never would have started this thread. You would never be "Sherlock Holmes-ing it" to find out about your husband's past. You'd end this conversation.
Wait a minute!!!! One of the ex-husband's is YOUR husband? You left that HUGE detail out in your OP. Move on with your life! Knock off this freaky obsession with the ex-wife. She is NONE of your concern. As far as she's concerned, you got yourself a pile of trash that she did not want. I'll never understand why people post threads like this. Get over yourself!
Everyone is responsible for their own comportment, and it takes actual effort to abuse someone, so no, i don't buy into "blaming the victims" of domestic abuse.
I am an adult male that has suffered physical abuse from my father. While trying to appease my outraged elder sister he claimed that he was not responsible for what happened to me. Apparently I was being "mean" to him because I came home drop-dead tired and grumpy from work everyday. Also "men from his time are wired differently, so they just become angry quicker than most".
Of course what he didn't say (and didn't realize my sister knew already) was that he was just trying to bully me into giving him 100 dollars of the pay check I just returned home with, under the pretense of hurt feelings. Right before I managed to escape he burst into my room and said "Well?! Are you gonna give me the 100 dollars or not?". He was so astounded when I said "Um, no!" it gave me the chance to dart by him and get out of the door, lol.
He makes me sick to my stomach (the first time I really felt that, a kind of "uncanny valley" feeling, where you start to question the humanity of your attacker). And so do violent people who makes a bunch of excuses, and pretend they are not responsible for the pain of their victims.
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When he told me on our very very first meeting about the son situation and that the ex has something to do with it.