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My brother is 26 and is still living at home. He is highly medicated but we do not know exactly what issues he has as he is over 18 and will not share w us. We just know that he has anxiety and he gets angry if he is not mediated. My dad and him do not get along. Today they got in a heated argument over something trivial which resulted in my brother yelling angrily and throwing pots at my dad. I had to jump right in and try to calm the situation. My dad is diabetic and I'm scared that he could get hurt. My mom usually is the mediator of the situation (this may happen if they get in a heated fight but it gets controlled) but she is currently over seas. My other brother and I are only here for the weekend and will have to leave tomorrow. We do not know what to do and are scared. We don't know if we should call the cops because the cops might turn him in. Which is not something we want. Please help. My dad doesn't know what to do but we are so scared to leave him alone like this. What do we do? Please help. I don't know if I should report my brother. I'm really nervous because he has shown signs of violent and scary behavior towards my father in the past but there's always been someone to stop him. Next time there may not be.
Police are only going to arrest your brother and make things worse. Sounds like your brother needs to be hospitalized or at the very least see a therapist.
I think you need family counseling. You seem like you're all scared of your brother. Unless your parents are going to throw your brother out, everyone who spends time in the house needs to learn coping mechanisms. Your brother and father got into an argument over something "trivial" according to your post. But your father likely could have refused to engage or defused the situation by responding in a nonconfrontational way.
Your brother is obviously mentally ill - I'm not saying he bears no responsibility for his actions, but he is less able to control himself. The mentally healthy people in the household are more capable of simply disengaging before a conflict escalates. I'm learning about this now with regard to dealing with my mother. Every invitation or provocation to conflict does not have to be responded to.
But institutionalizing him for a bit may be the best way to get him back on track. At 26, the only hold your parents have over him is their willingness to kick him out. If a psych ward could get him medicated properly and help him develop his own coping mechanisms, he might stabilize. Getting him into an institution however could be difficult.
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