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There are people who think what they do and have in life are better than someone else’s. And they even think and tell other people should do this and that and live a life like theirs. Those are usually narcissists and hypocrites.
Nowadays, there are so many parents with troubled children doing drugs, porn, killing each other, getting pregnant when still in high school, or adult children who have no job, just sit and home and play games, eat, do nothing and argue all the times when asked to do some chores. And the parents don’t know how to deal with them anymore.
Everybody has different life style and opinions. What you are doing is nice. As long as you are happy with your life, that’s good for you. Ignore the people with mean comments. If they come to you and bug you often and say mean things to you, tell them to mind their own business and you don’t have to live the life like theirs. And appreciate and welcome the people who are kind and support you.
I am 27, don't have kids, and don't plan on having them. If I wanted them I would've had them. Anyone who tries to shame me or criticize me for that might get some unkind words towards them. People need to mind their own damn business and focus on their own lives.
Really? With whom? A hired surrogate womb? You haven't had a long-term relationship in your life yet. You have to succeed in creating a stable relationship, first. You know--the horse usually comes before the cart. Unless you want to get a casual gf pregnant, then after she breaks up with you, steal her child...
Really? With whom? A hired surrogate womb? You haven't had a long-term relationship in your life yet. You have to succeed in creating a stable relationship, first. You know--the horse usually comes before the cart. Unless you want to get a casual gf pregnant, then after she breaks up with you, steal her child...
LOL - the horse comes before the cart in those Hallmark movies perhaps - but here in my world - not quite the case or the Foster Care system wouldn't be full of unwanted and uncared for children and neither would adopting a baby have become a full on contact sport. Sorry Ruth - your truth is hardly reality in today's world and if a young woman wants a child without a husband - she can get herself pregnant and be a single mother without most people looking twice. At least in most populated cities and public school systems in this - the 21st Century.
As far as not wanting children - at 27 - I'd say she has awhile to change her mind but frankly, the foster care system is full of children whose parents weren't wise enough to know that they couldn't or wouldn't be good parents.
Giving a good, loving home to shelter animals is one of the most selfless things a person can do and anyone who thinks differently isn't worth the time of day. People have children for all sorts of reasons - loneliness - believing that they will help keep a poor marriage or relationship from falling apart -giving themselves a sense of worth - having someone to take care of them in their old age - just because they weren't careful enough NOT to get pregnant or because they just figure that's what is expected of them.
Raising pets is selfless - they require total and complete care - and are dependent on you for everything. They keep people from going away and making travel plans, rule your daily schedule and unfortunately, the hardest thing in the world is saying good bye to a pet -children (mostly) outlive their parents - but pet parents have to time after time face the heart ache of saying good bye to pets. So for that reason, adopting another pet after suffering the loss of one - is the hardest thing to do but animal lovers do it - not because of what they gain from it - although a true animal lover always gains more from the adoption then a non animal lover could ever imagine - but because a loving animal is in a shelter in need and just waiting for a chance to be loved.
So that's what I would tell these people - after asking them why they had their kids and what they gained by having them and why they think your decision is any of their business.
No judgments. 6 kids here. But a houseful of shelter pets too.
I didn't see in your comments where anyone mentioned anything about kids. People with lots of kids get comments, too. I don't see anything in your post that makes me think the people commenting are criticizing you for not having kids. "What's wring with you" is just rude no matter what you are talking about. Maybe people are just imagining their lives with 6 pets, and are put off by it. Maybe they aren't trying to be rude. "Wow you have a zoo" isn't really rude. It is an observation.
Do you compare your pets to other people's kids? That's annoying to a parent. I have pets and I love them, and when they die, I mourn. I get it. But I also have kids, and they are not the same.
There seem to be a lot of people who think you can either be a pet person or a kid person.
I've not personally known it to be an either/or thing.
Me neither. Nor does being an animal person mean that I want them with me in the grocery store, restaurant, brewery, or running into my kid's soccer game. I've been accused of being a dog hater because I don't like to share the dining room with 12 other large dogs.
It strikes me that people who make cavalier comments about throwing infants out windows are often militant about animal abuse cases. Probably don't see it as quite so clever if people talk about threatening to toss a dog against the wall after listening to an hour of obnoxious, annoying self-licking from3-4 a.m.
I'm quite serious. Babies and toddlers outrage me. I think it's unhealthy, I never said I'm proud of it, but I would have been a danger to a baby or young child had I been careless enough to have one when I was younger and in a bad state of mind. I know it's wrong, but I would have had to fight the urge to do so. So of course I never wanted kids.
I could not hurt an animal. Again, I don't think my antipathy towards babies and young children is "normal" but at least I recognize it and know it's incorrect.
Did not mean to hijack the thread but am not cavalier about either aspect.
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I've been accused of being a dog hater because I don't like to share the dining room with 12 other large dogs.
