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When this girl was younger, she was diagnosed with leukemia. She was in and out of the hospital from age 8-15. She is all better now.
Fast forward to the present.
She is 30 years old but acts like a child. She won't go to school (has a bachelor's degree 6 years ago). Won't drive but has a license. Won't move out of parent's home. She seems to be content with attaching herself to her parents and won't do anything for herself.
Anytime she sees her 2 year old niece, she makes the niece do everything she wants. If the niece won't, the aunt goes "Well, your annoying because you won't do this with me." Once, the niece asked the aunt to dance with her and she said "You won't do what I say, I'm not going to do what you say."
I am not sure if the parents are aware of this or if they are oblivious to this.
Why does this girl act like this and how can I talk to the parents about this?
(I am the girl's sister, and it is tearing me apart. What is going to happen to my sister once our parents are gone? Is this behavior going to affect my daughter?) Please help me.
Talk to her first, if that's possible, as a courtesy. Then tell your parents. She needs therapy (and they have the legal right to push her out of her comfort zone). What you've described is real (versus the overrated TV form of) arrested development. She missed some stages in socialization, and also chemo might have messed with her brain. There too might be underlying depressive issues related to her future health and ability to have children.
Last edited by goodheathen; 06-17-2017 at 12:47 PM..
The parents know but, they are in denial or don't feel like exerting to set the situation straight. I'm going to guess that the "girl" also knows she's operating outside the norm but she'd got people dancing to her tune. So, it's all good for her.
In other words, she is being enabled and until those enablers stop, she will keep getting them to do her bidding. That is the key, to wake-up the enablers and convince them to stop. I doubt it'll be easy.
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