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As I said at the start of my post it certainly is an intrusion to make a comment like that. But again the opening poster has had total strangers cross that line and make comments "at least once a day". My comment had more to do with why that is the case rather than the rudeness of the comment, which I have already acknowledged. I mean if this is happening at least once a day there's a reason for this no?
The OP is putting off a vibe that the world feels the need to comment on daily. If it were me I'd try to change that.
I'm in agreement with this. I've also noticed that the OP has not commented again on his thread. I wonder if he has read it, though.
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No, it's not a conversation starter. How does barking at someone to smile start a conversation? It's patronizing. .
I agree. It's not a way to start a conversation by being patronizing to someone.
I've had strangers get angry at me for what they deem in unfriendly "facial expression" but then try to force me into a conversation with them. How strange. If I thought someone seemed unfriendly, the last thing I'd want to do is force them into conversation.
Yes, I have also been told to smile by total strangers. Sorry if I don't walk around with a permanent smile on my face even though I consider myself a happy person. If someone smiles at me I will smile back but I don't smile all of the time. I don't see everyone else smiling all of the time either.
No one has ever told me to smile, and I don't think anyone ever will. If anyone ever did, I'd tell them to go screw themselves
People don't tell men to smile.
There might be some wacky one-off exception out there, but most of the time, no stranger tells a guy what to do about his appearance outside of pulling his pants up.
As I said at the start of my post it certainly is an intrusion to make a comment like that. But again the opening poster has had total strangers cross that line and make comments "at least once a day". My comment had more to do with why that is the case rather than the rudeness of the comment, which I have already acknowledged. I mean if this is happening at least once a day there's a reason for this no?
The OP is putting off a vibe that the world feels the need to comment on daily. If it were me I'd try to change that.
Well, maybe you're more obsessed with pleasing complete strangers than the op is.
I walk around with a friendly, open, smiling face (or so I've been told) most of the time. People just randomly talk to me...I guess they figure I'm friendly. And I am.
But RBF is a real thing and no one should have to resort to something outlandish like surgery just to please total strangers. Or anyone for that matter.
The next time someone says this to you, just give them a weird Chandler Bing smile (the 'Chandler can't smile for the engagement photo" episode). Maybe a little snarl too
I used to unknowingly frown and scowl all the time when I was concentrating on things I was doing and people would always tell me to "smile it can't be all that bad" at first I felt like most the posters and resented that they were in my business, how dare they tell me how to look, how rude.
BUT, I decided to give it a try, who knows, maybe they have a point. So I made a conscious choice to smile more...and to my astonishment, people seemed to act nicer towards me, not that they were mean before, but, there was a noticeable difference that I can't explain. It didn't become all rainbows and unicorns of course but my life seemed to get more positive, nicer and richer. So, rather than shooting a zinger back at them, CONSIDER, JUST CONSIDER, TRYING TO SMILING MORE! IT MIGHT MAKE YOUR LIFE MORE POSITIVE AND RICHER TOO!
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I've also noticed that the OP has not commented again on his thread. I wonder if he has read it, though.
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Try it, you might like it.
