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...I feel myself becoming one more and more all the time.
Most of my life, I've been like this, even when I was a kid. I always had a disdain for how stupid, shallow, hypocritical, and self-righteous people are. Logically, I know that not everyone is like that, that most people also have good qualities, and that I'm not perfect myself, but yet I still find myself feeling morally and intellectually superior to "the masses".
I often see so many people seemingly having fun, light-hearted, laughing easily, generally being a "part" of something that I feel like I merely observe and judge rather than partake in.
In some ways, I'm envious of them for being able to do this. I recognize that is certainly a part of it.
But even beyond that, I just feel annoyed at most people. I feel annoyed that most people are so self-satisfied despite being so tremendously flawed and doing nothing to improve themselves.
Now, like I said, I know I'm not perfect. I've made mistakes and will continue to make them. But on the whole, I feel better than the majority of people because I have trained myself over the years to (almost always) do the following: remain objective and see all sides of a situation, think critically and calmly and not let my emotions steamroll over the facts, treat people with kindness and not participate in any of the cattiness/pettiness/talking behind people's backs **** that a lot of people do, barely ever drink, never do drugs, etc.
I live a goody-two-shoe life, apparently. I'm mostly glad that I am like this, but it only serves to create more barriers between me and most other people. I sometimes wish I could be as carefree, reckless, selfish, and hypocritical as everyone else, since they seem to be happier that way.
I said that I already logically realized that. Objectively speaking, I already know that. That doesn't automatically stop me from feeling the way I do though. If we all felt the way we "know" is "right", then there would be a lot less problems in the world, but it unfortunately doesn't work that way.
For example, you might "know" that a girl is all wrong for you and the relationship is going to be unhealthy, and yet you still might feel passionately in love with her and go along with it anyway, even though you know you shouldn't.
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Originally Posted by JB75
How do you know they are self-satisfied, selfish, reckless, hypocritical and tremendously flawed?
Because of their actions, words, behaviors...
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If you can put aside your own self righteousness and not judge so much, you may find yourself actually enjoying their company.
I've tried many times. I've put myself out there a lot. I'm extremely friendly (despite not liking most people) and have tried to develop genuine connections with people, but I always end up feeling like I don't really care about them, don't really want to hang out with them (could take or leave it usually), and generally don't enjoy being part of a "group" the way most people do.
I would like to. Surely life would be easier and more fun. But it's never worked out yet.
I know it's hard to deign to reply to those of us who aren't up there with you, but if you could bear with me for a moment ...
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Originally Posted by SnakeOfSilver
I said that I already logically realized that. Objectively speaking, I already know that. That doesn't automatically stop me from feeling the way I do though.
Like I said, if what you wrote in your OP were true, and you HAD trained yourself as you claim, you wouldn't be facing this dichotomy.
The most obvious reason is inadequacy. What is your superiority masking?
OP, I can relate to a lot of what you say, but there is one big difference (and I think it actually makes me happy): I don't feel like I'm better than the majority of people. In fact, I don't really see anyone as being wholly better than anyone else. I see differences and yes, maybe on a micro scale of one skill or attribute one person one might be better than another, but overall better, no. There are too many factors and variables that make up a human being to clearly say person A is better than person B. Me included.
If you are looking for advice, which is why am assuming you're posting, I would say to make a concerted effort to find at least one thing in each person that you find as amazing or better than some aspect of yourself. Again, I'm not saying find a better person than you but look back at the people you think aren't better than you and really look at their personalities, skills, attributes, the whole package. You might surprise yourself and it might change your outlook.
I still find myself feeling morally and intellectually superior to "the masses".
I feel annoyed that most people are so self-satisfied despite being so tremendously flawed and doing nothing to improve themselves.
You sound like an interesting person.
Can you elaborate on examples how you're intellectually superior?
What things have you done for continual self-improvement?
In other words, what sort of person, more like yourself, would you NOT be annoyed by?
Have you ever looked past "...their actions, words, behaviors..."? Have you ever paused and purposefully looked past their appearances? I strongly recommend you do that once or twice. You might be floored. Someone said every person is a true person if we take the time to actually see them. (And that only takes a minute.)
I get it. If it's not a deep, meaningful, stimulating relationship, you're not interested.
And you probably want them to be interested in what you are interested in, right?
You know this makes you snobby right? And there is nothing wrong with that. But just own it
If you want to hang out with more people, you need to lighten up, even if you are faking it.
If not, then you need to be ok with less people in your life. Which is fine too.
no, don't relate at all. It sounds like being blinded by one's own arrogance and sense of superiority and judging everyone through a very narrow prism of hateful presumptions.
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