Anger is so much worse than depression! (men, husband, abusive)
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Of course, but sometimes making love does cause a war. The heat of passion. But generally, great sex with a great person is a good experience.
I think it causes war when there's no balance between arousal and feelings.
When there is only arousal, it's like masturbation using another person, a selfish act.
When there is only feelings, it feels like not daring to fully enjoy the experience, a scary experience.
But when you can reach the perfect balance, then it's perfect. Some foreplay and teasing here, some conversation and jokes there, everybody relaxes and enjoys...
I believe the opposite is true. Although I have never felt depression, I get angry occasionally, and it feels great to release the tension. No one can hear me in my car, but I can curse like a truck driver and I'm over the feeling in seconds. Depression can be long lasting and debilitating.
No I need to get back to depression. I have never screamed at my child. They are old enough now not to be so dependent on me for everything. I feel all I do is clean up after them. Mess after mess after mess after mess. How do you flood a floor and sinks and much more of a hug mess making one P&J sandwich. I lost it. Probably every neighbor heard me. "ISSSSSSSSSSSSSS THIS MYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYY LIFEEEEEEEEEEEEEE CLEANINnnnnnnnnnnnG and on and on at the top of my lungs....!!!!!
And the sad thing is I feel so guilty and my child could care less because they are so spoiled by their dad that they had no concern but to come down and want me to cut it in a specific fashion. That is one of my problems....nothing is ever about me, It is about everyone else. I guess that is why I wish to take off, assume another name, and go from there.
I believe the opposite is true. Although I have never felt depression, I get angry occasionally, and it feels great to release the tension. No one can hear me in my car, but I can curse like a truck driver and I'm over the feeling in seconds. Depression can be long lasting and debilitating.
I bet it felt good! I had all my windows open. I am sure I was heard quite well. Oh well. What can u do?
take a kickboxing or martial arts class for anger....as for depression, trying meditation, yoga, art therapy or creative writing/drawing...as cliche as it sounds exercise helps, especially when you find what works for you.
I'd say anger is WORSE.
I'm traditionally a yeller and screamer, but I don't do so much anymore. I've had a bad temper for as long as I can remember. Once when I was a kid, my dad came after me because I was screaming in anger, he had his belt out and began to swing it at me and I grabbed it. He got so mad he was about to punch me! He was I think the only one who could shut me up when I yelled.
I've learned to control my anger. I'm now on meds for depression - I've had depression for many years, and didn't acknowledge it (denial). I still get periods of depression at times, but keeping it under control.
Two things handle my anger....and then a few other things.
First, I grew up with an irritating little brother that I was forbidden to hit. In the end run, I contribute this situation to producing "interrupters" to my anger, uncontrollable mental devices that stop me from getting angry. It is not always, good, however for it worked against me in lines of work where anger is often used to get things done, such as the service.
Secondly, I NEVER want anyone to say to me, "Why do you have to be so mean?". This may be a device that worked of my childhood destructiveness when it burned itself out.
Finally, in my martial training, there is my controlled ascension to my maximum energy before my adverisery reaches his maximum energy, to overtake his ascension and take him out first. It is something that I have developed over the years so I am in control and not blinded by anger for that is another thing, not being in control is frightful.
In my view, anger is pointless unless it incites useful action.
With your kid, it's time to read some parenting books on how to counteract the other parent's bad influence. And guess what? You may not scream at your kid, but your kid knows you're angry and is going to gravitate toward their father more and more while you stew in your rage. So fix it.
You say you're seeing a doc, but are you seeing a therapist? Because honestly, I recommend it all the time on these boards, but there are very few people who need one more than you do.
Cut off the "relative" who is constantly harassing you. The therapist can help with how to do this.
Start exercising. Do pushups and squats and crunches at home. Run. Take the kid on a hike. Whatever you can do to keep yourself moving will help.
Start a journal of your thoughts. Track your feelings, what triggers your greatest anger.
You're angry. So it's time to actually take action because otherwise it's just going to eat you alive.
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