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I'm for sure my friend is a narcissist. She is having a baby shower, she invited 300 people. 300 freaking people. She made a website dedicated to her baby shower. It has three registrars on it and she has also made a calendar of days that people can dedicate their time to coming over and helping with the baby once the baby is here. She also states flights are cheap right now so people should try to fly out for if they can.
IT'S A FREAKING BABY SHOWER! I'm just wondering how so many people can just go along with this. Her guestbook is flooded with comments from people.
I want to know how someone like this has been able to keep a wide variety of friends.
Narcissistic people do seem to have a lot of friends. What they really have in an entourage of people who are their to compliment them, do them favors, and in general, bolster their egos.
The relationships are rather superficial, as you might expect.
There is actually a term that I learned for this circle of friends "narcissistic orbit". Those in the "narcissistic orbit" are often drawn to the narcissist because that person is charming, witty, knows when to give a well placed compliment and occasionally is a celebrity of some sort.
Narcissists could not live without their admiring posse. hey give them just enough to keep them "hanging on".
A narc without an admiring posse is like the moon without the sun. Thy bask in the light of their reflected glory, but would grow dark without them.
On Facebook, I have noticed that there are people who will post selfies of themselves, constantly and get hundreds of "likes" and even hearts - all from the same people - and there are other people who just brag constantly, and again, get all kinds of "likes" and support and people tell them how wonderful they are. I totally do not get it.
On Facebook, I have noticed that there are people who will post selfies of themselves, constantly and get hundreds of "likes" and even hearts - all from the same people - and there are other people who just brag constantly, and again, get all kinds of "likes" and support and people tell them how wonderful they are. I totally do not get it.
I have friends like this too. They love to put selfies pics on fb an crave the likes, thumbs up, you are beautiful...etc comments. And they do it often. I sometimes look at these pics and say to myself...why the flying F would you put that picture on.lol. But I am very critical to my own looks, I guess Im insecure that way.
The narcissist doesn't have more friends. Or many friends. Or even "some" friends...
Not in the true sense of "what is a friend ", at least. They DO have many acquaintances & they are very good at maintaining a "map" in their head, sort of like the social media "friend/mutual friend" tracking.
These are not the people who say things like "Sorry, I'm terrible with names!" ... Because they are excellent with names. Chances are, if you are in a position to be a beneficial contact at some point? They knew your name long before being introduced. If they are a true narcissistic? The introduction may not have even been random at all.
They are very good at "working" a crowd, raining intense attention in a few seconds on an individual before moving on to the next. The vast majority of those 300 wouldn't really be missed if a no-show; they are wanted there for the illusion of "I am a VIP", sort of like a grand opening with a packed parking lot. If one of those no-shows happens to be a key player? The narcissist will remember the slight for the next 50 years.
To be fair, most pregnant women do go through a bit of the "it's all about me" thing, it's a normal part of maternal psychology. But 300 attendees for a baby shower? Hope she has some good party favors!
Narcissistic people do seem to have a lot of friends. What they really have in an entourage of people who are their to compliment them, do them favors, and in general, bolster their egos.
The relationships are rather superficial, as you might expect.
There is actually a term that I learned for this circle of friends "narcissistic orbit". Those in the "narcissistic orbit" are often drawn to the narcissist because that person is charming, witty, knows when to give a well placed compliment and occasionally is a celebrity of some sort.
Narcissists could not live without their admiring posse. hey give them just enough to keep them "hanging on".
A narc without an admiring posse is like the moon without the sun. Thy bask in the light of their reflected glory, but would grow dark without them.
And it's sad to see when their SO is one of the members of that orbit. They are either very naive and can't recognize tje fact that this person is a fraud, or willfully blind to the narc's debit side and willing to put up with a lot of sh*t because the think the crumbs they get thrown are worth it.
I am not friends with narcissists on facebook but many of my facebook friends receive likes for selfies and such. If I accidentally friended one of those people, I hide their news feed. It is very easy to tell who they are. If they send me an invitation, I don't bother to see how many people were invited. I decide whether I want to attend or not and I do not attend parties, showers or weddings of people I am not close to.
Sure...how many of these 300 "friends" will actually come? And bring a gift? These are not real friends - most of these are mere acquaintances, if that - so easy to say something nice online. If she is really a narcissist then few of these people know her at all - those that do have probably dropped her.
Now, the definition of narcissist has been stretched a lot lately too - has she done anything else besides this? Lots of people arrange for "gift grabs" and Facebook makes it easy to set up - that doesn't make them all narcissists - just greedy.
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