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Old 10-08-2017, 12:36 AM
 
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My mother always taught me "Don't talk to strangers." I guess many others didn't have such a good mom.
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Old 10-08-2017, 07:29 AM
 
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My mother always taught me "Don't talk to strangers." I guess many others didn't have such a good mom.
You're joking, right?
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Old 10-08-2017, 08:23 AM
 
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My mother always taught me "Don't talk to strangers." I guess many others didn't have such a good mom.
That's fine for children but I have evolved into using my intuition. If I develop a nagging feeling that someone has an ulterior motive tied to their behavior I will withhold any friendly response and try to exit the social situation.
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Old 10-08-2017, 10:14 AM
 
Location: Nebraska
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I don't know if I am posing this question the right way. Is it okay for someone to refuse to meet someone, refuse to greet them or chat with them or is this generally considered "rude" and bad behavior?
Why waste your time on FOOLS?
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Old 10-08-2017, 10:29 AM
 
Location: Texas
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That's fine for children but I have evolved into using my intuition. If I develop a nagging feeling that someone has an ulterior motive tied to their behavior I will withhold any friendly response and try to exit the social situation.
Is wanting to be friends an ulterior motive? Some people are friendly just to chit chat for a few minutes. They aren't necessarily trying to be your bestie.


Or was there another ulterior motive you were referring to.
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Old 10-08-2017, 10:37 AM
 
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Is wanting to be friends an ulterior motive? Some people are friendly just to chit chat for a few minutes. They aren't necessarily trying to be your bestie.


Or was there another ulterior motive you were referring to.
I have no issue with participating in chit chat with strangers. I actually do it more frequently than I even realize. It is the 'wanting to be friends' part where I get a little guarded. There are too many energy vampires in society.
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Old 10-08-2017, 10:39 AM
 
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and too many misanthropes
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Old 10-08-2017, 10:39 AM
 
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I have no issue with participating in chit chat with strangers. I actually do it more frequently than I even realize. It is the 'wanting to be friends' part where I get a little guarded. There are too many energy vampires in society.
So people who want to be friends are energy vampires?
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Old 10-08-2017, 10:41 AM
 
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So people who want to be friends are energy vampires?
It depends in each individual case and that is where my intuition comes into play. i have rejected some people and embraced others.
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Old 10-08-2017, 10:42 AM
 
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So people who want to be friends are energy vampires?
There's a whole vocabulary that's popped up to try to describe what's really just aloofness, misanthropy, and lonerism. Nothing wrong with preferring solitude over socializing...but there is apparently a need in these folks to justify it by disparaging the others.
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