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Umm, I'm 20 and would have felt pretty uncomfortable had a repairman said that. I would have called his manager to just tell them to remind said employee to 'remember what is and is not appropriate to say to a customer, especially if they are basically a stranger.'. Like I invited you in cause it's hot and for polite conversation, not a random comment on genitalia. I might get comfortable with customers my age at work (18-24yos mind you), but even I know when to draw a line and the above is a line I don't even get near cause it's so clearly inappropriate to tell someone you basically JUST met.
Just would have called cause you might not be the first person he'd have said that too and the last thing you want is dude thinking it's appropriate to tell that to people on the clock (especially if you don't know them or their background).
He simply and suddenly and out of context told me how his daughter was being raised. I did Not mention my kids or how they were raised. Not only that, the vagina remark was very much in the beginning of his not asked for chit chat.
I'm quite confused... Could you share how did the conversation go exactly? Did he just come in and "Oh hi, I told my daughter about penises!" That'd be super weird.
Certainly even I was in the situations when I suddenly blurted out some TMI and then only dug deeper trying to get out of the awkward situation. But there was always some context. A professional going around telling random clients "penis facts" out of nowhere is terribly inappropriate (I'm guessing he had no signs of mental disability). If that's the case then IMHO you should call the company. If I was a manager / owner I'd want to know.
EXCUSE ME??? I was NOT 'talking about his personal life.' He simply and suddenly and out of context told me how his daughter was being raised. I did Not mention my kids or how they were raised. Not only that, the vagina remark was very much in the beginning of his not asked for chit chat.
If you think I started talking to him about child rearing you are totally mistaken. I thought it was super weird. And I neither had nor have any intention of reporting him. He was just odd. Sweet but odd.
I will assume there are some men reading this who know that this is how men "fish" for willingness from a woman. They bring up some sexual reference in a way that they can later deny was any kind of "come on." Then, if that's not met immediately with a rebuff - and many women are slow to respond, as they are mentally questioning if what they are hearing is really happening - they assume there is a possibility of willingness, so they ramp it up a notch - while still in the realm of deniability.
This guy started talking about genitalia almost immediately, supposedly about a conversation with a kid (wonder if he even has one). Then, as you didn't freak out, he then started talking about the size and shape of penises.
Somehow, he then probably saw the confusion and discomfort on your face and decided to give it up.
But, this is classic, in my experience.
Happened to me when I was single all the time, even with the husbands of girlfriends. It was a fishing expedition. And he had no idea how old you were.
And he gets away with it by being charming and seeming to be innocently talking about such stuff in such a cute way.
I'd complain. Wouldn't be surprised if the boss said, "What kids?"
And you men out there - tell me this wasn't fishing for an opportunity, or at least that you are quite aware that this happens.
I will assume there are some men reading this who know that this is how men "fish" for willingness from a woman. They bring up some sexual reference in a way that they can later deny was any kind of "come on." Then, if that's not met immediately with a rebuff - and many women are slow to respond, as they are mentally questioning if what they are hearing is really happening - they assume there is a possibility of willingness, so they ramp it up a notch - while still in the realm of deniability.
This guy started talking about genitalia almost immediately, supposedly about a conversation with a kid (wonder if he even has one). Then, as you didn't freak out, he then started talking about the size and shape of penises.
Somehow, he then probably saw the confusion and discomfort on your face and decided to give it up.
But, this is classic, in my experience.
Happened to me when I was single all the time, even with the husbands of girlfriends. It was a fishing expedition. And he had no idea how old you were.
And he gets away with it by being charming and seeming to be innocently talking about such stuff in such a cute way.
I'd complain. Wouldn't be surprised if the boss said, "What kids?"
And you men out there - tell me this wasn't fishing for an opportunity, or at least that you are quite aware that this happens.
Spot on. And you know the scary part of all of this? Women here are posting that some of us are 'too sensitive', which is what allows people to get away with this crap.
The Gift of Fear came out 20 years ago, and we are still denying our intuition. The OP was disturbed enough to make a thread about this. Something told her that this guy was off. But yes, she enjoyed the attention and let it slide. Even in this thread, she makes light of it. She doubts herself so much she had to ask strangers on the internet if he was creepy or not.
I find that some men, particularly blue collar for some reason, are crude. Even if they try to curb it, crude expressions slip out (you should pardon that pun).
He may have been fishing, or he may have simply been comfortable with you. Did you engage him in friendly chit chat, or was he rambling on without your encouragement? Why were you sitting? (Not that this is your fault. I'm just wondering if you two were engaged in friendly conversation, so his guard was down and he got to speaking like he would with his pals.)
I wouldn't report him and get him in trouble. Although I'd watch it in the future & not be too chit chatty with strangers. I'm guilty of that. One thing I do is never sit down while they're there, unless I'm sitting to write a check. The idea being...I'm waiting on him to leave.
I've had a lot of workmen to my house over the years. I don't recall any of them saying anything inappropriate like that. I probably would've said, jokingly. .."Whoa...too much tmi, there!" Or I wouldn't have said anything, being stumped at what to say to something so crude said by a stranger.
I am married and well over sixty five. My husband wasn't home ; I called the air conditioner place to repair our a/c.
The man arrived , worked outside in blistering heat for twenty minutes then came inside. He had to chat with me, or something, to see if it was really fixed.
This man, Adam, was overweight but really cute and sweet and about forty. Maybe younger. He was talking about he and his wife raising their daughter and what kind of methods they used. He said, "and we tell her, 'a woman has a vagina and a man has a penis.' I was speechless and expressionless. I was sitting in a recliner in my sweats with no makeup on; he was standing up.
Would you have responded? Thought nothing of it? Reported this to his boss? Eventually I said, "I bet you're anxious to get home to your wife after a day like this" and he goes, "she isn't home." He left soon afterwards.
you were in the wrong.....that really is the defining difference between the sexes.
I am married and well over sixty five. My husband wasn't home ; I called the air conditioner place to repair our a/c.
The man arrived , worked outside in blistering heat for twenty minutes then came inside. He had to chat with me, or something, to see if it was really fixed.
This man, Adam, was overweight but really cute and sweet and about forty. Maybe younger. He was talking about he and his wife raising their daughter and what kind of methods they used. He said, "and we tell her, 'a woman has a vagina and a man has a penis.' I was speechless and expressionless. I was sitting in a recliner in my sweats with no makeup on; he was standing up.
Would you have responded? Thought nothing of it? Reported this to his boss? Eventually I said, "I bet you're anxious to get home to your wife after a day like this" and he goes, "she isn't home." He left soon afterwards.
You omitted something EXTREMELY important. Basically half the story.
Inappropriate. AT least he didn't tell you about the kids potty training.
Don't report him, he just has poor social skills. Maybe he has asbergers, who knows.
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