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I am so confused. Forgive me if I leave out details this could be long.
I have been with the same by for 9 years married for 5. When my husband doesn't like something he brings in all 4 horsemen of the apocalypse. Completely ignores me for weeks months on end. Not days or hours. It's getting longer as time goes by, but he will act differently when other people are around. If you try and point things out he accues me of spinning things around and bating him into an argument.
He always accuess me of lying and brings up everything from the past what he's read on the subject and tells me everyone agree with him (my brother a client excetra) for instance 2 months ago I told him I was taking a day off for work he made sure I was awake early before he left for work. I got up breakfast took our dog for a hike had lunch did the grocery shopping came back home at 1 or 2 he was home pissed in his words tjat nothing was done and I lied. I told him "its 2 in the afternoon the days not over but since uour in a pissy mood I'm going out until you calm down." He's been nasty ever since.
I am so confused. Forgive me if I leave out details this could be long.
I have been with the same by for 9 years married for 5. When my husband doesn't like something he brings in all 4 horsemen of the apocalypse. Completely ignores me for weeks months on end. Not days or hours. It's getting longer as time goes by, but he will act differently when other people are around. If you try and point things out he accues me of spinning things around and bating him into an argument.
He always accuess me of lying and brings up everything from the past what he's read on the subject and tells me everyone agree with him (my brother a client excetra) for instance 2 months ago I told him I was taking a day off for work he made sure I was awake early before he left for work. I got up breakfast took our dog for a hike had lunch did the grocery shopping came back home at 1 or 2 he was home pissed in his words tjat nothing was done and I lied. I told him "its 2 in the afternoon the days not over but since uour in a pissy mood I'm going out until you calm down." He's been nasty ever since.
Am I crazy or is the situation crazy?
Thx
I don't know if you are crazy, but it sounds like you're married to an immature A-hole.
I'm sure that is what he is, because I'm not good at communication and telling him to *** off and grow up won't work. What should I say or do that is useful and constructive?
You SHOULD say, "I am moving out for 3 months while you get some therapy for the cruel and immature way you treat me. If you want to consider marital therapy I would be willing to do that, but if not I won't be moving back in."
Wow, thanks for the above link especially as well as the others. This is how my ex husband (in 2 more months I hope) treated me most of the time. I really needed to see this. It all makes more sense now. I would be more apt to call it lying their a$$ off. I hope you get it all sorted out because at least for me it never stopped, only grew worse. And it will take it's toll on you both mentally, and physically. Hugs.
Well, from experience, I can tell you that if you are not crazy now? You will be, shortly.
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