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My old friend was married about 18 years and now divorced for almost six... she said she is going to ask her husband to send her something for their anniversary because she put a lot of time in the relationship and should be acknowledged. He's single and she said he does it but I suspect if he meets someone she won't like him sending her stuff for their anniversary that is kind of like compensation or something... I would venture to say most people will not agree with her request or him going along with it. She said he travelled way too much on many occasions he wasn't required to by his work but offered or agreed to it and that was the main factor that led to breakdown of the marriage so she feels like she should be compensated for how she sacrificed over the years, iow being a single parent on his long business trips.
My old friend was married about 18 years and now divorced for almost six... she said she is going to ask her husband to send her something for their anniversary because she put a lot of time in the relationship and should be acknowledged. He's single and she said he does it but I suspect if he meets someone she won't like him sending her stuff for their anniversary that is kind of like compensation or something... I would venture to say most people will not agree with her request or him going along with it. She said he travelled way too much on many occasions he wasn't required to by his work but offered or agreed to it and that was the main factor that led to breakdown of the marriage so she feels like she should be compensated for how she sacrificed over the years, iow being a single parent on his long business trips.
This is one of the most idiotic ideas I have ever heard.
I don't know about them, but sometimes people still love each other even after they are divorced. There is definitely something unusual about their relationship if he goes along with this.
OP: I think I'm reading this right...and I say No Way. Asking for a gift???
Yes. Asking for a gift.. she seems to see it as he travelled for business unnecessarily for extended times- she had asked him not to do all that because she was left as a single parent w their two kids when he did.. and he did it anyways when it wasn't required and caused the breakup, she feels she should be compensated or acknowledged for all the time and sacrifice she put in. She asked if I see her point and I was afraid to answer Like I said assuming he begins another relationship in the future he would most likely either have to stop, (doubt a girlfriend would like that dynamic) or secretly give her gifts, not a good idea. She said she asked him for a Pandora bracelet and a gift card for their upcoming anniversary. I just said "oh, well, okay.. yea..." basically
Yes. Asking for a gift.. she seems to see it as he travelled for business unnecessarily for extended times- she had asked him not to do all that because she was left as a single parent w their two kids when he did.. and he did it anyways when it wasn't required and caused the breakup, she feels she should be compensated or acknowledged for all the time and sacrifice she put in. She asked if I see her point and I was afraid to answer
They are divorced. That was her "reward" for his perceived poor behavior.
Talk about entitlement. They are done. Holding onto a grudge like that is, in the words of Carrie Fisher, like drinking poison and waiting for the other person to die.
Certain women also ask for "push gifts" ... compensation for pushing a baby out. They feel entitled to compensation from their husband for pain and suffering.
My old friend was married about 18 years and now divorced for almost six... she said she is going to ask her husband to send her something for their anniversary because she put a lot of time in the relationship and should be acknowledged. He's single and she said he does it but I suspect if he meets someone she won't like him sending her stuff for their anniversary that is kind of like compensation or something... I would venture to say most people will not agree with her request or him going along with it. She said he travelled way too much on many occasions he wasn't required to by his work but offered or agreed to it and that was the main factor that led to breakdown of the marriage so she feels like she should be compensated for how she sacrificed over the years, iow being a single parent on his long business trips.
She has "issues" and should seek professional help....smh
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Like I said assuming he begins another relationship in the future he would most likely either have to stop, (doubt a girlfriend would like that dynamic) or secretly give her gifts, not a good idea. She said she asked him for a Pandora bracelet and a gift card for their upcoming anniversary. I just said "oh, well, okay.. yea..." basically
