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Just because you have a thought doesn't mean you need to express it.
True, but what's wrong with expressing it? I would say that goes double for the three-hundreth boring, repetitive, unimaginative "thoughts and prayers," as well. It brings nothing to the conversation, so the real question is why post that (again)?
True, but what's wrong with expressing it? I would say that goes double for the three-hundreth boring, repetitive, unimaginative "thoughts and prayers," as well. It brings nothing to the conversation, so the real question is why post that (again)?
I don't think kind comments need a limit or an expiration date. But unkind, selfish comments DO.
Do you not have a concept of "time and place" appropriateness? Does it not matter to you because it's online and you can't see the negative effect your speculative comments have on people?
Some people view leaving a "thoughts and prayers" comment as an actual prayer. Some actually say a prayer when they comment. That's why so many repeat it in a row.
What is this phenomenon? Someone posts some bad news (it's either a personal problem and thus a plea for sympathy or else a reposting of a public tragedy, such as a traffic accident), and one hundred people post "thoughts and prayers." If anyone deviates from the script and does NOT post "thoughts and prayers," but rather offers advice to address the personal problem or inquires as to what could have caused the tragic accident, that person is savaged by the "thoughts and prayers" contingent with accusations of being rude and uncaring. Is this simple herd mentality, or are people actually offended or threatened by a problem-solving approach to life?
Would you say at a wake, or to coworkers or family of someone that died of a heart attack "He always was heavy, let this be a lesson to watch your weight?"
Because that's the level of coarseness that's required to garner the reaction you describe. I've never seen that reaction to a simple "how?" inquiry over a traffic accident.
Would you say at a wake, or to coworkers or family of someone that died of a heart attack "He always was heavy, let this be a lesson to watch your weight?"
Because that's the level of coarseness that's required to garner the reaction you describe. I've never seen that reaction to a simple "how?" inquiry over a traffic accident.
I have seen a simple "how?" (nothing more) elicit responses such as, "now is not the time or place for that," "don't you realize the family might be reading this," "how inappropriate," and "are you blaming the victim?" It's quite irrational.
True, but what's wrong with expressing it? I would say that goes double for the three-hundreth boring, repetitive, unimaginative "thoughts and prayers," as well. It brings nothing to the conversation, so the real question is why post that (again)?
You don't express it because someone on that venue loved that person, and it's only going to hurt her. What good does it do to say something like that, and what is your purpose behind saying it?
Why would asking what caused an accident hurt anyone? That, and I seriously doubt that grieving families are scrolling social media reading comments by strangers; they're probably busy making funeral arrangements.
I have seen a simple "how?" (nothing more) elicit responses such as, "now is not the time or place for that," "don't you realize the family might be reading this," "how inappropriate," and "are you blaming the victim?" It's quite irrational.
I think that you have to realize that when gauging the public off of social media that there are always a few vocal, overly sensitive snowflakes. The rational, stable 80% may make a "thoughts and prayers" or more likely to say nothing at all.
"there's always one," just like there's always a vocal annoying vegan on many food subjects that assume the reader isn't vegan and has no interest in becoming vegan.
What is this phenomenon? Someone posts some bad news (it's either a personal problem and thus a plea for sympathy or else a reposting of a public tragedy, such as a traffic accident), and one hundred people post "thoughts and prayers." If anyone deviates from the script and does NOT post "thoughts and prayers," but rather offers advice to address the personal problem or inquires as to what could have caused the tragic accident, that person is savaged by the "thoughts and prayers" contingent with accusations of being rude and uncaring. Is this simple herd mentality, or are people actually offended or threatened by a problem-solving approach to life?
FINALLY, someone who gets it!
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