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Originally Posted by Steve McDonald
Here's looking at that from a biologist's point of view: It's hard-wired into their brains ...
...Our closest relatives, the Chimpanzees, carry this out to the extreme. When a female comes into heat, she may have sex with every male in her group. We share 99% of our DNA with them. So don't blame the women, they're just following their inborn impulses. If you're going to have a relationship with one of them, you have to deal with it. Civilization has attempted to quell these matings with multiple men, but obviously has had only limited success at it.
A statistic compiled decades ago, showed that 25% of all children born to married couples, have biological fathers other than the women's husbands. I'd bet that percentage has increased today.
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Originally Posted by mlulu23
Oh please, humans are not chimps.  We are held to a higher standard. It's a choice to be unfaithful. We are not mindlessly driven by instinct like some lower forms of life are. Just because 25% supposedly have children by someone else doesn't make it right. And where do they get these statistics, and how accurate are they? It sounds more like an excuse to me. It's shameful behavior just the same no matter who does it male, or female. |
No. He’s right.
And so are you. Humans have the ability to over rule what actually is a biological drive of hypergamy. It’s our Freedom of Choice, which is based on a religious tenant of being called to become “God-like” & maintain our dominion over the earth, the sea & its creatures.
It’s probably what led to our evolution beyond that of the apes. But God is now passé & we might be de-evolving rapidly due to that.
I’m a female with Hyperfertility (hyper ovulation) & as such have been hard-wired for polyamory & hypergamy. I can actually “feel” this biological mandate & would be very content to live in a society of female polyamory.
Without the belief that I am called to be higher than the animals, it would take me less than 2 seconds to rationalize my intentions to betray any man with the one excuse that is, oddly, thought to be uniquely “male”:
“Its just sex”.
Because to me, it is. I can love a partner but they have no dominion over my sexuality. It’s my magic. It’s sex.
It took a very long time for me to understand why I would lose interest in having sex if birth control, including condoms, were used. The magic was gone. It made me feel like a tool & that’s not sexy.
My ex-partners would complain that I “acted like man” in a relationship. I guess I could argue that I’m actually a genetic throwback to the more animal-like female. Except that with maturity, I’ve been able to master my own Freedom of Choice. Because I don’t want to live my life as a bad person. To be honest I’m not sure if it’s sustainable for me & I wonder if ageing will help.
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