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I'm male but will give my opinion anyway, my wife was a Scientist and preferred being called smart at work.
From my experience as a male, more women seem to prefer being called beautiful than smart....you will get a much bigger smile saying they are beautiful (note: if they like you that is) than you will calling them brilliant.
I guess it depends on the woman. I would prefer smart, in the proper context. If you have ever had a guy you respect only complement you on your looks and completely ignore anything else, it isn't a great feeling. And it seems a little sexist.
What do women like better? To be called beautiful or smart?
The reason I ask this question is that I constantly see a woman trying to make another woman feel better and seems like everytime one tell the other one: “You are so beautiful”
As if that’s the best thing anybody could say to a woman
I don't know about all women - but usually 'smart' is much longer-lasting than 'beautiful'.
I'd rather that it be genuine, regardless of what one is complimenting. How and why you do it, matters so much more than what you choose to say.
If I am with my lover and he praises my body with eyes or words, I know I am pleasing to him and I am happy. When he listens to me and tells me he thinks I'm very wise, then I am also happy. When I'm in a room talking to a mix of old friends and new acquaintances, and I make a witty comment and a man I've only met that night, throws his head back, laughs and applauds, this compliments my humor, and I am happy.
In all cases, these things were genuine.
If I mean more, then I say more. My former girlfriend (still a dear friend to me) is the most beautiful woman I have ever known. But it's not merely her body, her dark flame red hair or pale skin or the shape of her mouth or the hue of her bright blue eyes. It's the razor sharp intellect that challenges you through those eyes, her spirit like honey with a sharp thread of cinnamon or a warm fire that will spark up with no warning and burn off your eyebrows. Her brilliant mind, her bright soul, her loving heart. SHE, everything she is, is beautiful. And I have told her this, because I want her to know.
Now if someone is making me a compliment because they believe it will get them something, I will sense it fairly easily. No matter if a partner who hopes to distract me from some upset I have with them, or a stranger who believes maybe I will smile and chat and give him my phone number or something, the worst kind of compliment is a false one, or one rooted in ulterior motives.
What do women like better? To be called beautiful or smart?
The reason I ask this question is that I constantly see a woman trying to make another woman feel better and seems like everytime one tell the other one: “You are so beautiful”
As if that’s the best thing anybody could say to a woman
Try calling them "beautifart" and get back to us on the results!
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I'm in the both camp. Looks fade, while wisdom increases.
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