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It's been like this my entire life. No one has ever wanted me around, and everyone that knows me thinks I'm a bum and failure. I'm a social reject, an outcast, a washout, a pee-on, and possibly a targeted individual.
Thicker skin needed, my friend. It matters not what others think of you but what you think of yourself. You have the power to change that. Either use it or spend the rest of your life making excuses.
Awww. OP, you NEED to learn to stand up for yourself. I know it is hard but if you feel you are being rejected, it's coz you don't do something about it.
It all boils down to YOU. First step....
LOVE yourself and everything else will follow, just be ready to open your heart and your mind.
Well why do people think you're a bum and a failure? Do you work or have any interest in gainful employment or is sleeping in till noon more appealing?
You mention you're a social reject, but maybe you are trying for the wrong group. If you skip showers, personal grooming, dress down and are trying for popularity in an after work crowd meeting for drinks, then you have a problem. Anyone can have peers even in tent city.
I can relate. The home screen of my phone says “Whole World is against me” because to me it is. I’ve been disrespected and done dirty by everyone. Young, old, man, women, black, white, brown, gay, straight, family, strangers
Everyone I come across is an enemy until proven otherwise and even then I still won’t fully trust them. I won’t go out of my way to be nice or even cordial with anyone unless they initiate it or I have something to gain. Some types of people I have more contempt for than others. I care about myself, first and foremost. Couldn’t care less what happens to others as long as it doesn’t effect me
Are any of the things that they think about you true? Are you a lazy bum?
No, but I'm sure that I look like one. I was out of college(dropout) and unemployed for 10 consecutive months before I got my last job. I held that job for nearly 4 whole months before I finally quit due to false accusations. I've been unemployed for a little over a month, now.
LOL stop caring what other people think about you. I did a long time ago.
I have never had an easy time "fitting" into society.
I have rather weird "out there" spiritual beliefs due to experiences I've had, and the materialistic stupid world that people relish so much means little to me.
Things like money, "success", competition with each other, worldly acquisitions and the like have NEVER motivated me.
I live a simple life and I like it. But I get people who think I'm unambitious, stupid (despite being degree educated and wise beyond my years) and otherwise an idiot or loser because I don't follow the superficial tune of society.
Screw what people think. When I got out and about I realise most people are pretty thick and unintelligent anyway and to be fair, nobody has any real reason to have authority over any one else.
What you need to learn how to do is to develop assertiveness and realise NO-ONE is better than you (or worse, 'cause it's stupid to think in that way) and ultimately our beliefs shape how we see ourselves and other see us and what we become.
So believe yourself to be someone who can be and represent whatever serves YOU best (as long as it doesn't involve hurting anyone) and DO NOT LET ANYONE push you around or tell you what you should be doing. Including on this board. Tell them to f(ck off.
Well why do people think you're a bum and a failure? Do you work or have any interest in gainful employment or is sleeping in till noon more appealing?
You mention you're a social reject, but maybe you are trying for the wrong group. If you skip showers, personal grooming, dress down and are trying for popularity in an after work crowd meeting for drinks, then you have a problem. Anyone can have peers even in tent city.
1. Because I look like s*** and mainly do nothing. I've been looking for work for over a month. Rejections are common.
2. Yes. I am a social reject. I've always had trouble making or keeping friends. In grade school, I usually began the year with one or two bullies. By the end of the year, I had problems out of the entire class, including girls. I could even tell that the teachers didn't really like me. I don't ever remember being accepted or respected as a kid.
It's been like this my entire life. No one has ever wanted me around, and everyone that knows me thinks I'm a bum and failure. I'm a social reject, an outcast, a washout, a pee-on, and possibly a targeted individual.
I think it's dreadful that you feel this way, and my advice would be to find someone to talk to who can help. It takes enormous courage to do that, and is not an admission of anything but wanting a better life. A good therapist--if you can find one--will be of great use to you.
Additionally, "no one" and "everyone" are rather large categories of people, and that cannot literally be true but is only an indication of a mood. But it causes me to be worried about you. Find a kindly, wise person to talk to, and don't put it off. You will be much happier.
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