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Old 01-03-2018, 11:24 AM
 
Location: equator
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People for the most part are social beings. Some may be awkward but I think very few want absolutely nothing to do with others at least not all the time. Now that is not saying that people don't want a break from others and society but very few will make the choice to do it long term. So yes that makes it abnormal.



I find the Japanese culture of the lost generation, Hikikomori, fascinating.
Hikikomori: Inside Japan

Then again if there parents didn't leave food for them they wouldn't be able to survive....but still a strange situation.
Wow, that is a weird situation. Thanks for sharing. I wish it had gone into more detail about how the parents are obviously enabling this to go on. They can't be happy with this!


And quite telling that in So. Korea it is due to internet addiction. Something to ponder....
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Old 01-03-2018, 01:37 PM
 
Location: TN/NC
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There are many days where I would be perfectly fine if I had very limited to no contact with anyone. Most of the time, I'm perfectly fine with an internet connection and some talk radio.
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Old 01-03-2018, 02:55 PM
 
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Most of the time, I'm perfectly fine with an internet connection and some talk radio.
Talk radio is like Chinese water torture to me. If I'm in a 'go away world, I'm writing' mindset or trying to be, the last thing I want to hear is news and politics, or people chattering away about how important it isn't.
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Old 01-03-2018, 03:14 PM
 
Location: Middle America
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Self-described hermits who claim to prefer no social contact, but spend significant time frequenting online discussion forums, gaming online, etc. are being disingenuous. Having online discussions and interactions is social contact. Those who only choose to interact with others online, and have no desire for in-person contact with others typically feel EXTREMELY isolated if their online connection to the outside world is for whatever reason compromised or interrupted. That isn't being a hermit/eschewing social contact. It's just preferring to be 100% in control of the contact and have no actual social responsibility/accountability or true reciprocal connection to those with whom you socialize. It's socializing-lite. It speaks more to wanting everything on your terms than it does to actually preferring true isolation.

You're not a hermit if you are a loner who camps out online debating things with people all day to fulfill a need for human interaction on your own terms. You might be if you choose to go live in seclusion off-grid in the Alaskan bush or primitive rainforest or in a yurt in the Mongolian steppe and forego communicative access beyond emergency, or something like that.
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Old 01-03-2018, 03:19 PM
 
Location: Shawnee-on-Delaware, PA
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Do you think that being a Hermit is abnormal?

Of course it's abnormal. That's why there is a specific word for it.


If you want to be "reclusive" or to shun visitors that's your business. But being a true hermit, where you don't even come into contact with other people, is quite rare.
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Old 01-03-2018, 03:25 PM
 
Location: Northern panhandle WV
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I am a reclusive person, I do have family living with me but have minimal interaction with them. I have my own room and TV which I spend every evening in. When I get up in the morning I come downstairs and I am at my computer mostly reading on forums all day. I very occasionally go out to shop, usually my daughter in law shops for me.
I go out for medical apts. and that is all. I have not had actual friends since High school. and I did not keep up with them either.
Two of my grown children live with me, the other three barely contact me ever.
This is the way I live, I have no desire for other contact.
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Old 01-03-2018, 03:44 PM
 
Location: Middle America
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I am a reclusive person, I do have family living with me but have minimal interaction with them. I have my own room and TV which I spend every evening in. When I get up in the morning I come downstairs and I am at my computer mostly reading on forums all day. I very occasionally go out to shop, usually my daughter in law shops for me.
I go out for medical apts. and that is all. I have not had actual friends since High school. and I did not keep up with them either.
Two of my grown children live with me, the other three barely contact me ever.
This is the way I live, I have no desire for other contact.
You're married, though, right?
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Old 01-03-2018, 04:09 PM
 
Location: In Austin soon
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Abnormal? Yeah... that being said by a hermit.

If you're smart/lucky enough to draw good people to you, who enhance your life in some way, well, bloody well good for you. I've yet to figure that part out at age 40. Does it have something to do with moving around so much as a kid, never establishing roots & continuing the same as an adult? Probably.

I haven't known many good people, including family. Whatever... it's abnormal, but not unusual, especially today in our social media world of distance being the norm. I consider it luck of the draw. I do my best... if it doesn't work out, I now move on, rather than subject myself to daily abuse. Why is it this way? I've no FFFFFF'n idea. I wish it weren't... it is.

I'm not jealous or envious of others. I also don't require pity. I still try.
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Old 01-03-2018, 06:31 PM
 
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Agreed people can be a lot of work and I also like a break once in awhile.


I remember one time I had to go into town to do some shopping. After 2 stores I called my husband and told him "I'm on my way home. I'm not fit to be around people today" I might have called them idiots

There are times when my husband doesn't leave out property for 10 days or so and he likes to socialize. Then again he has me to talk to all day.
Now that is funny! " I'm not fit to be around people today" I never heard that before, I might need to use those same words again myself. Thank you.
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Old 01-03-2018, 07:08 PM
 
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i like being a hermit, if I could make a living. I would live in a hermit house on a mountain in the woods some where
Anyone who has nearly 7,000 posts on an internet discussion board isn't a hermit.

You might not like to do face to face interactions, but you do enjoy human contact/discussions very much.
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