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For me anxiety, frustration, and depression come along with change for me. I embrace it and become stronger after it. Starting a new job or the months counting down till I got married. Then add in moving in my wife changing my whole life. I dealt with sort of.
Fear of the unknown excabetates it. The wife wants to work towards having a child. I am excited, but worried because our careers are kind of flat lined right now. I looked into a few different careers changes this past year, but little panned out. My wife and I are in school right now, but over the course of 2 years hit a rut. Plans have been halted due to limited school options in our State. Financially we just pay bills and try to save, but it's difficult. Wife and I talked about a plan. Wife is 100% me about 80%. Researched found areas where my wife and my current career are in demand. Within this area found more school options then we currently have in our State with lots more flexibility. Lower school cost and lower cost of living. The crux is it's 8 hours away from family, pets, and friends. That idea is torture and tearing me apart inside. Just want to break down and cry. Realize it could be for the best and only temporary. So many worried go through my head. How much life could change for those I am close to and not being able to be there for them. It scares me I don't know.
Staying put does not give you control over fate. But it does keep you on the same treadmill.
People move to better themselves all the time. Other people fearfully stay where they are. If you have better opportunities elsewhere, then I think you should consider your options, plan, save and move if that makes sense.
Once you have decided on a course of action, and found stability, then start your family.
Not being able to decide is, in effect, a decision not to act.
Staying close to your family does not confer protection. Moving away from them does not expose them to danger.
You say it would be a temporary move. If I'm understanding correctly, we're talking about 2 years, right?
I'd try to look FAAAAARRRR down the road, and tell myself "we're talking about 2 years. 2 years is a blip of time. And 8 hrs. isn't 8000 miles. It means you can visit family and friends on holidays and long weekends, and maybe it could mean you can meet friends at a fun half way point.
Here's the fun part about moving somewhere totally different with the love of your life. The fun of exploring new territory together. It will bond you and your wife closer together as you explore your new surroundings. You'll discover new restaurants, if you're an outdoors person, new places to hike, fish, etc.
I guess my main point I'm trying to make is...change is inevitable. Sometimes, change happens, and we have no say about it. But sometimes, we DO have some say over it, and it looks like THIS potential change is for the good, AND it's temporary.
Look for the good in it, instead of dreading it. ;-)
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