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Continue insisting that I am pathetic, if it gives your ego a jolt.
What is it you are looking for?
You started a thread entitled "Born a Target."
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I honestly wish I could help, but it is confusing.
The reason posters here aren't in the same situation with
angry/abusive/bully people is that we avoid them.
You want to stay in that relationship and
1) analyze why he does it
2) blame yourself
3) analyze his marriage
4) figure out how to be silent around him to keep the peace
But when we say Run, don't walk away, you
ignore that and say you know better.
But then you say this has been a pattern your whole adult life.
I honestly wish I could help, but it is confusing.
The reason posters here aren't in the same situation with
angry/abusive/bully people is that we avoid them.
You want to stay in that relationship and
1) analyze why he does it
2) blame yourself
3) analyze his marriage
4) figure out how to be silent around him to keep the peace
But when we say Run, don't walk away, you
ignore that and say you know better.
But then you say this has been a pattern your whole adult life.
Your screen name should be "Listens2Nothin"
What I have actually said is I am not sure what I should do about it. I am in the process of thinking about it, and trying to figure out if I was unfair to Wacko in any way.
That is what I always do if I have problems with anyone. I try to see if I have control over any of it, or not. If I decide that Wacko really is a wacko, I will avoid him. I already avoid him somewhat, and have been almost since the beginning. He wanted to be friends and spend more time together, but I didn't. He really seemed to like me a lot, but I don't want to be close friends with a man who is married. Even if he were always nice, which he isn't, I would have kept a distance. Even if I thought he was attractive, which I don't, I would have kept a distance. Even more so because who wants to get attracted to someone who is married.
So now I am keeping more of a distance, not wanting to be around someone who thinks it's ok to get angry at me over stupid little things. And I am deciding if I want to keep playing music with him. I have wanted to be in a band for a LONG time, and this has been my first chance. But maybe other chances will come along, I can't even guess.
What I have actually said is I am not sure what I should do about it. I am in the process of thinking about it, and trying to figure out if I was unfair to Wacko in any way.
That is what I always do if I have problems with anyone. I try to see if I have control over any of it, or not. If I decide that Wacko really is a wacko, I will avoid him. I already avoid him somewhat, and have been almost since the beginning. He wanted to be friends and spend more time together, but I didn't. He really seemed to like me a lot, but I don't want to be close friends with a man who is married. Even if he were always nice, which he isn't, I would have kept a distance. Even if I thought he was attractive, which I don't, I would have kept a distance. Even more so because who wants to get attracted to someone who is married.
So now I am keeping more of a distance, not wanting to be around someone who thinks it's ok to get angry at me over stupid little things. And I am deciding if I want to keep playing music with him. I have wanted to be in a band for a LONG time, and this has been my first chance. But maybe other chances will come along, I can't even guess.
That sounds like a good plan...
I wonder why he wants to spend more time together??
You're like -- why would anybody want to spend time with YOU???
Oh dear Lord, I give up...
I was wondering if he has romantic interest
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