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This may explain the recent plethora of threads whose topics are essentially "why is everyone dumb except me"?
Sometimes a post may be interpreted like that because the writer is articulate, well read, authoritative (versus authoritarian, which is a different matter)--when in fact it is resentment powering the response. Hatred, really. Reflective negative responses, observed historically in someone's posts, is sort of insane.
Scary. And smart people just avoid interaction. Probably the wiser course.
Welp, denigrating and gas lighting others is pleasurable to some people. It's pretty obvious, but one component of that sort of character is a mistaken attitude of superiority, the notion that other people are stupid, that kindness is a sign of weakness. It's just basically evil. And ubiquitous.
I totally agree there is no reason to be mean BUT sometimes people who think they are nice actually aren't. There are plenty of people who think they are kind, considerate and open-minded when they're just the opposite. Not everyone has an accurate image of themselves.
It's also "best" to not snark at somebody and call them names. But listen, we can get into trouble for bickering, so on my side, I'm stopping. If you want the last word, knock yourself out.
Given that I got the information I needed, I have no complaint.
You asked why your thread went downhill and posters are trying to point out the reasons. But you want to disagree with those reasons?
I want to point out that your opening post was somewhat vague, especially your first sentence, and your question wasn't entirely clear. Your second post didn't clear things up and by your third post you were getting defensive. Then after you finally clear things up and get to the actual point of your thread you start chiding people. Those people may not have been giving the answers you wanted but they were trying to tell you how to get the advice they thought you were looking for. The bullying in that thread went both ways, and you pretty much set the tone with your responses.
I totally agree there is no reason to be mean BUT sometimes people who think they are nice actually aren't. There are plenty of people who think they are kind, considerate and open-minded when they're just the opposite. Not everyone has an accurate image of themselves.
I'm really not suggesting there's no reason to be mean, exactly. There *is* an underlying reason: mental illness. But if you're saying there's no genuine justification, I agree.
Also, what you're saying about how most folks don't have an accurate assessment of their own character is absolutely correct. I've noticed that in myself and others and there's a lot of research to support it. Probably a good topic for another thread, but yeah. Ouch! But yeah.
You asked why your thread went downhill and posters are trying to point out the reasons. But you want to disagree with those reasons?
I want to point out that your opening post was somewhat vague, especially your first sentence, and your question wasn't entirely clear. Your second post didn't clear things up and by your third post you were getting defensive. Then after you finally clear things up and get to the actual point of your thread you start chiding people. Those people may not have been giving the answers you wanted but they were trying to tell you how to get the advice they thought you were looking for. The bullying in that thread went both ways, and you pretty much set the tone with your responses.
I'm not the OP. In fact, my first post on this thread was #24.
Where did I ask why my thread went downhill? (It's not my thread!)
Do you have me confused with someone else? My posts don't conform with your complaints.
I'm not the OP. In fact, my first post on this thread was #24.
Where did I ask why my thread went downhill? (It's not my thread!)
Do you have me confused with someone else? My posts don't conform with your complaints.
Sorry, forgot to add the relevant quote, but it does sort of point out how confusing it can be when someone assumes that others should understand what they want advice or help with when details are not forthcoming. oops!
Was referring to this older post you made:
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Originally Posted by KaraZetterberg153
I consider myself a "nice" person--don't know if that's accurate. But please tell me: what did I do wrong on this thread and are these people bullying me? 'Cause that's what it feels like:
Being online can lead to a certain amount of paranoia. I quit here briefly but returned to posting because of the animal cruelty thread, where I thought I could make a meaningful contribution.
I totally agree there is no reason to be mean BUT sometimes people who think they are nice actually aren't. There are plenty of people who think they are kind, considerate and open-minded when they're just the opposite. Not everyone has an accurate image of themselves.
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