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Unless I am seriously deluding myself, I strive to be pleasant and polite to everyone*. However, here on C-D, it seems that SOME people will often look for hostility even when there is no hostility present, and they will become very hostile (and insulting). I have noticed this not only toward my own posts, but to many other posters, as well -- posters I can rely on being reasonable, nice and pleasant at least 99% of the time will often have very unkind things, imo, said to them in reply. The weird thing is that I don't think that most of the hostile people are trolls, necessarily, but they just seem to enjoy making others feel bad about themselves.
Do you agree or not? And if you do agree, why do you think those people do that?
(And, yes, it is easy to say "just ignore them", but I am the type that takes things to heart, and an unkind comment can spoil the rest of my day -- or at least an hour or so of it.)
*The exception is on Current Events and P&OC forums sometimes, in which I am very opinionated and often blunt, although I try very hard to never be actually insulting to other posters.
The hostile people would be that way person-to-person, if they had the courage. Lacking that, they slip in here and get their jollies, feeling safe and removed from reprisals.
Oh well this is just part of human nature and has been since time immemorial. Even some of the sweet old ladies at the church committee meeting every Sunday probably loathe each other behind their backs and have the odd handbag flinging match every now and again.
Some here are just miserable rude frustrated cretins just like in real life but braver. What would be funny would be to meet some of them in a group setting, tough guys on the internet guaranteed not so much face to face! But not really tho who would have the time or desire LOL.
Maybe there are just three or four of them, with multiple personas and sign ins, and IRL they are either crazy cat ladies or old men alternating between sitting at a desk hunched over a weird, fat 2000 era monitor, and jumping up (wearing a dirty t shirt and old man underpants) and yelling "GET OFF MY LAWN!" at the neighbor kids from their rickety front porch.
Maybe there are just three or four of them, with multiple personas and sign ins, and IRL they are either crazy cat ladies or old men alternating between sitting at a desk hunched over a weird, fat 2000 era monitor, and jumping up (wearing a dirty t shirt and old man underpaknts) and yelling "GET OFF MY LAWN!" at the neighbor kids from their rickety front porch.
Why thanks I can’t get those images out of my head now LOL 😂
I've seen very strange behavior on the relocation (city/state) forums. Members who attack a new member inquiring about an area they're planning a move to, if the OP doesn't return within 24 hrs. to post on their own thread. That, alone, garners them "troll" accusations, on some of the city/region forums.
Members who provide valuable advice about a city, for a relo inquiry, attacked by other members who, for unknown reasons, make a concerted effort to discredit the respondent as a reliable source of info. I don't know how a website whose main purpose is to provide info on cities, regions, and states can function, with that type of activity allowed. It's baffling. The behavior is baffling, except that in some cases, it seems to come from young people, who don't know the area under discussion as well as they think they do, so they bash the well-informed members? It makes no sense.
But Good4Nothin may be onto something; it may be about creating or elevating a self-image of being an expert. So they put down the real experts? Still doesn't make sense, but then....humans often don't make sense.
Hi Ruth, yeah, I've noted that myself, actually people (not everyone of course,) but a lot of people are nasty today...I've been told that a lot of people come to City Data simply to read, b/c they are afraid of posting, due to how nasty people are to one another....
I to think it's about creating a self image....so yes, believe Good4nothin might be onto something....
Have you read news feeds on FB and how nasty people are? It really makes me sad, that people are unable to disagree with one another and not attack each other...but, I honestly believe today people define them selves by their political affiliation?
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