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I think it's great especially if your intelligence is in different areas. My late H was always extremely smart in ways that required specific, detail-oriented mechanical or electrical instructions, whereas my strengths were more verbal and concept-oriented. I have known since I was age 7 that I had 98% verbal aptitude and only 2% mechanical aptitude; his skills and intelligence pretty much were the opposite, so we made up for each others "deficiencies".
No, I'm not saying that extreme either; that all women rejected are all spurned, feminists etc. Many have perfectly good reasons for their responses, including you and your examples. But when articles come out with large generalizations, such as "most men can't handle (or don't want) women smarter than them", I have to step up and call 'foul'.
I constantly see people (and opinions and discussions) go in one direction or completely the opposite, when the truth is often more towards the middle. Sometimes I risk looking like I'm somehow supporting or endorsing one side or the other, when I'm only trying to highlight balance.
As a man, I'll be the first to say that there are lots of screwed up men out there. I'm highly critical of many men, and usually never say anything about women. Sometimes though, like here, I feel that it is necessary.
I don't think the word "feminist" is a dirty word, either. Feminism ranges from merely (?!) equal pay for equal work, and a disparagement of domestic violence, all the way over to Valerie Solonis' SCUM Manifesto (The Society for Cutting up Men). It's not one thing, and it's a very important thing, for that matter, that gets a bad rap.
Not only would be a resounding yes, but it's actually a very attractive quality to me. The current woman I've been talking to works in the computer tech field, has told me of prior, rather involved, vehicle modifications, home improvement projects that she's tackled solo, and other such things. Much of this has only intensified my interest, whereas the typical "dumb, but gorgeous" woman is very much a turn off for me, and frankly...boring. I've dated women like that, and while my buddies were all ga-ga over her, and saying how lucky I was, it was just a very lack luster experience for me.
If a woman is curious and inquisitive, has a zest for lifelong learning, and a drive to understand contrasting views rather than shutting them out, then I don't care if she is more or less intelligent than myself.
What I don't find attractive is women with no desire to expand their horizons outside a narrow avenue of interests and ideas.
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