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OK, the word creepy is a word that I try to not toss around too easily and most responsible women I know feel the same but all the same I've felt it. We all know there are silly women who do throw the word around just to be mean, but that is not the audience or participators who are on this thread from what I can tell.
And as others have stated, it's mainly men who keep pushing when I've made it obvious that I'm not interested and I get extremely annoyed when someone forces me to be rude to them. I have met one man in the past 9 years who has creeped me out so it's actually pretty rare, however I'm going to describe him and what he did to make me feel creeped out.
First of all, he was not attractive but I might have overlooked that if I'd liked him. I didn't. He looked like Count Dracula's butler. He was a fellow dancer at a folk dance where everyone dances with everyone and between dances he would run over to talk to me and a couple of times he literally had me pushed into a corner to keep me from making excuses to get away. The second time he did that I reached over and pushed him out of the way so I could get out of his clutches but that didn't keep him from pursuing. Once my mother died in a city 2 hours away and I was getting ready to head over for the funeral and he suggested that we should meet up for coffee in that same city. I started leaving the dance early to get away from him but he would watch carefully and as I was getting my coat on he'd get ready to leave too so he could walk me to my car...he wanted others to think we were leaving together. If I was talking to another man he would walk over and stand next to me as if we were a couple. But the worst thing ever, and at first I thought it was my imagination, was that if I said something he didn't like, and he was extra-sensitive, his pupils would go to slits like a snake. I mentioned it to another woman at the dance and she said, "Oh yeah, the snake eyes. I've seen that." I didn't even think that was possible but we both saw it and I saw it twice. I got to the point where I was so repulsed by him that I would not look at him or talk to him and he still continued to pursue! Finally I had to be a real you know what to keep him from talking to me and he didn't take it well but at least he left me alone after that.
Wow. I actually have a visual of that " snake eyes". The cornering, too. Yikes.
Complex? Who said it had to be complex? You're just playing into the stereotype that women love to complicate things unnecessarily, and as a staunch feminist that doesn't sit well with me, just sayin'.
It’s the opposite of your word, facile. My post is simple and clear, you’ve never even defined the word you’ve demanded others define for you. Hope you can read this from the bridge you live under.
The problem with the word "creepy" (and "creep"), is that it was hijacked over the last 20 years. It's become a stronger form of "unattractive". It went from being a cautionary word about dangerous men, to a slur used against a specific type of men. I'm talking about stable providers: they make good husbands, but don't/can't trigger emotional arousal in women. For many reasons: they're not very attractive, they're not smooth talkers, and/or they're not socially dominant. In which case, when women say "creepy", they're not talking about danger; heck, most such men aren't dangerous. They're talking about those men's inability to trigger emotional arousal. Women hate it; hence, "creepy".
While the word "creepy" is still used in its original definition, like the man who follows you around at a train station, today, it's far more common to hear it in its hijacked definition. Which is causing it to become watered down, which is caused women to be taken less seriously when they say it, which puts women in harm's way by not protecting them against actual creepy men.
In other words, in a woman called a man creepy back in 1988, people around her would look out for her somehow. Today, they're likely to dismiss her statement as simply finding him unattractive.
To me getting a feeling that someone is creepy doesn't actually have to have anything to do with me directly. They may not be interested in me in the very least.
They're putting out a Vibe, or making comments that perhaps normally go unnoticed. When inspected on their own, some comments or mumblings of their's denote a specific ism, revealing unusual hatred, or even abnormal attraction.
People with very extreme anti-social thoughts usually don't express them out in the open in case The Others may notice, comment, or examine them. They know enough to consciously keep the thoughts to themselves. I get a creepy feeling from them, wondering if they've acted on these illogical thoughts in their head or if they're about to, or what kind of Secret Life they may live.
That kind of individual I feel justified in thinking of the word Creepy.
The problem with the word "creepy" (and "creep"), is that it was hijacked over the last 20 years. It's become a stronger form of "unattractive". It went from being a cautionary word about dangerous men, to a slur used against a specific type of men. I'm talking about stable providers: they make good husbands, but don't/can't trigger emotional arousal in women. For many reasons: they're not very attractive, they're not smooth talkers, and/or they're not socially dominant. In which case, when women say "creepy", they're not talking about danger; heck, most such men aren't dangerous. They're talking about those men's inability to trigger emotional arousal. Women hate it; hence, "creepy".
While the word "creepy" is still used in its original definition, like the man who follows you around at a train station, today, it's far more common to hear it in its hijacked definition. Which is causing it to become watered down, which is caused women to be taken less seriously when they say it, which puts women in harm's way by not protecting them against actual creepy men.
In other words, in a woman called a man creepy back in 1988, people around her would look out for her somehow. Today, they're likely to dismiss her statement as simply finding him unattractive.
I have never heard creepy being used to describe men with no game. Examples please (pop culture is fine).
The problem with the word "creepy" (and "creep"), is that it was hijacked over the last 20 years. It's become a stronger form of "unattractive". It went from being a cautionary word about dangerous men, to a slur used against a specific type of men. I'm talking about stable providers: they make good husbands, but don't/can't trigger emotional arousal in women. For many reasons: they're not very attractive, they're not smooth talkers, and/or they're not socially dominant. In which case, when women say "creepy", they're not talking about danger; heck, most such men aren't dangerous. They're talking about those men's inability to trigger emotional arousal. Women hate it; hence, "creepy".
While the word "creepy" is still used in its original definition, like the man who follows you around at a train station, today, it's far more common to hear it in its hijacked definition. Which is causing it to become watered down, which is caused women to be taken less seriously when they say it, which puts women in harm's way by not protecting them against actual creepy men.
In other words, in a woman called a man creepy back in 1988, people around her would look out for her somehow. Today, they're likely to dismiss her statement as simply finding him unattractive.
To be fair, it sounds more like YOU are likely to dismiss the statement as simply being code for "I think you're unattractive." I'm not convinced that this is a universal perception. Especially since the majority of people responding here are mentioning behavior that is threatening or distressing. I think that, overall, people who are perceived as creepy are perceived that way due to behavior, versus appearance.
No, it is a person that gives you an uncomfortable vibe.
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