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Someone on this forum mentioned not feeling atteactive. Men and women: how much is your self-confidence, mood, personal happiness affected by your perception of your physical appearance.
One thing I've noticed, a lot of people are very beautiful and are not even aware of it. Also, a sort of plastic good looks can be wearing if the personality underneath is mean, manipulative or egoistic.
I don't believe that good-looking people aren't aware of it. I think they are acutely aware of it since doors open much easier for them all through life. They may just be humble. In my "better days", it certainly helped me. So now I feel I am missing something without being sure how to replace it. So I guess it was sort of important to my self-esteem.
Doing well at my job added a lot to confidence too, but when that ended, so did that "feeling"....
Very negatively. I’ve had low self-esteem since childhood because of the fact that many people wouldn’t hesitate to tell me how ugly they thought I was.
I always think about what it must be like to be an attractive person. To know that you’re desired by other people, to know that people automatically assume positive things about you, to know that you’re probably going to have an easier time in life than everyone else.
If you're good looking, you're well aware of it. You'll get plenty of compliments over the years. Ask me how I know!
I've known a lot of really nice looking people who don't think they're nice looking at all and have low self-esteem. Low self-esteem can affect how you see yourself, so it's silly for us to sit around and wonder if attractive people know they're attractive and what not. Just like depression does not discriminate against anyone, neither does self-esteem. Marylin Monroe, Sandra Bullock and Justim Timberlake are a few celebrities with low self-esteem.
Besides, looks can be subjective. As some have said, "Beauty is in the eyes of the beer holder!"
And I would imagine some folks with low self-esteem have low self-esteem for reasons not related to how they think they look. Some folks have low self-esteem because they think they suck in their careers or are bad parents. To say it is mainly due to perceptions of attractiveness isn't really fair to all the people with it.
I always think about what it must be like to be an attractive person. To know that you’re desired by other people, to know that people automatically assume positive things about you, to know that you’re probably going to have an easier time in life than everyone else.
I imagine for some people it is a negative to think they have to live up to what others may think about them.
I never thought about going thru life with the burden of being untouchable, so beautiful.
I once did not want to give my phone # to a sweet guy since I didn't like his looks, but thank goodness I did, we had a couple yrs of love and fun and I almost missed that for the looks issue. His personality was so great and SOH, I was always laughing.
For my big jump in self esteem, being in outside sales and going thru rejections was a huge plus in my life...the loss of sales and sales balanced out. And I left that job so much stronger.
I don't mind being ugly. I was never into pageantry of sorts.
However, it's hurtful for me to be called a mean, manipulative, egotistical person.
My closest relations would gladly make this labels to me when all I want is their help in a legal case that involves them.
I didn't even want them to take sides, I just want them to be a witness of what happened, to say, that something does exist.
Many people can be their good, sweet self when everything is fine and dandy, a nice chat, good conversations.
I think it is natural for people to suddenly behave uncouthly when under extremenly high stress situation. You lose your cool, it wears off as 2 years have passed, and all you hear is that the end of the day is coming ..
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I don't believe that good-looking people aren't aware of it. I think they are acutely aware of it since doors open much easier for them all through life. They may just be humble. In my "better days", it certainly helped me. So now I feel I am missing something without being sure how to replace it. So I guess it was sort of important to my self-esteem.
Doing well at my job added a lot to confidence too, but when that ended, so did that "feeling"....
I completely agree. Anyone who is beautiful and is unaware of it maybe has body dismorphic disorder or something.
Everyone else knows.
That's why that "She don't know she's beautiful" country song rankles me. Like, how stupid can she be?
Someone on this forum mentioned not feeling atteactive. Men and women: how much is your self-confidence, mood, personal happiness affected by your perception of your physical appearance.
One thing I've noticed, a lot of people are very beautiful and are not even aware of it. Also, a sort of plastic good looks can be wearing if the personality underneath is mean, manipulative or egoistic.
My self confidence is definitely affected by how I look. On those days when you’re rushed and throw on anything and pin your hair up to get to work on time, is invariably the day the boss calls the office in for an impromptu meeting. Of course, there are women who picked that day to wear a nice outfit. It’s distracting to say the least.
I’m going to a fall reunion and am losing a few pounds and getting some highlights. Looking good is always a great confidence booster, and I’ve never known an exceptional looking man or woman who wasn’t aware of how they looked. I agree, being mean or manipulative dosen’t look good on pretty people, since there is an expectation that the person must be pretty inside to match the outside. Back in the day, I turned down some dates with handsome guys. These guys were well aware of how they looked and I didn’t feel like trying to fend off the waitress, coworkers and any other female who wanted to move in. Also, what woman wants her man winking at them on the sly?
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