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Now imagine having 6 dozen of them that you don't use for anything.
Well, actually I am trying to head that way because I do have a use for them. They would be the box of various cups such as plastic, metal, tall, short, etc to be in the field kitchen supplies. That's where my old travel (and leaky) coffee mugs go.
A and B. A: As oppose to buying paper (or even worse, plastic to contribute to the glut) cups, have something reusable instead. B: One of the early camping trips, a dive boss caught me short because he did ask if I had a tall glass; he wanted to mix a drink.
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I once dated a guy who was a borderline hoarder. I think if his roommate wasn't there, the hoarding would be a lot worse. From what I observed about him, he does everything possible to avoid conflict and responsibility which makes him appear to be extremely lazy and passive. At rare times, his true colors would show and would become angry threatening to break things or saying negative things about himself. It wasn't something I was going to put up with long-term so we are no longer together. From what I read about hoarding, it's an issue that can be managed if the person realize they have a problem. Similar to an addict. Relapse is always a possibility.
First, let me say that the programs you cited are not sitcoms. There are full and partial episodes on youtube should you now have interest in seeing abbreviated examples of how these situations are handled.
You called this visit an intervention but made no mention of actually seeing Aunt Carol at all. Was she there? What was her reaction to having all of you traipse in?
And what is your mother's plan to assist Aunt Carol should the county condemn the house?
Frankly, there is probably no remedy or cure, only management.
I am wondering why your family seemed to just walk right into someone else's home and start judging them. What if they did that to YOU? Whether or not you think or even know that person has an illness you still need to give them basic respect and they have a right to their stuff even if they are hoarding it. It's not all trash to THEM. Lots of your stuff is worthless in MY eyes but I'm sure you wouldn't want me tossing it saying you don't need it.
This is so sad. Thanks for passing on the article.
I agree. That's gotta be the loneliness way to die. Even worse than prison. At least in prison, they tend to rely on each other when no seems to care about them on the outside. I've seen this one documentary where elderly prisoners who usually serving a life sentence take care of each other until death so one doesn't have to die alone. It was interesting.
I read the article and 15% seems really high not knowing who the next of kin is. And with smaller families is usually the norm in today's society and many people tend to keep to themselves, the number will probably only higher in the future. Even if they do have relatives, there are probably legit reasons why they choose not to be involved in a hoarder's life.
Maybe welfare checks by authorities should be mandatory especially if one is living alone and elderly. Not everyone pays attention to their neighbors or they may live in a secluded area away from others where their death may go unnoticed for a period of time.
Interesting post! The OP mentioned seeing an "untidy yard and front porch. The yard was disheveled and piles of junk all around".
From what I've seen, heard and experienced with hoarders thru the years, an "untidy, disheveled yard with piles of junk all around" is a clearcut exterior sign of a hoarder.
The accumulation and possession of a hoarder's junk is never just contained inside the house, it will spill out.
Sometime last year, I inquired and posted a thread question about a house for rent in Sunnyvale California - this area is just outside of San Francisco, a high rent district.
It was a hoarder's home and they were asking for FULL Rent as if their home was equal value to other homes in the same neighborhood for rent. //www.city-data.com/forum/san-f...e-94085-a.html
The funny (and pathetic) thing about this rental property, the owner did not post any pictures of the interior but immediately wanted to interview me at the very start of my inquiry. I strongly believe she wanted me to consider renting this place WITH the sizable junk intact and asking for FULL RENT price.
Interesting post! The OP mentioned seeing an "untidy yard and front porch. The yard was disheveled and piles of junk all around".
From what I've seen, heard and experienced with hoarders thru the years, an "untidy, disheveled yard with piles of junk all around" is a clearcut exterior sign of a hoarder.
The accumulation and possession of a hoarder's junk is never just contained inside the house, it will spill out.
Sometime last year, I inquired and posted a thread question about a house for rent in Sunnyvale California - this area is just outside of San Francisco, a high rent district.
It was a hoarder's home and they were asking for FULL Rent as if their home was equal value to other homes in the same neighborhood for rent. //www.city-data.com/forum/san-f...e-94085-a.html
The funny (and pathetic) thing about this rental property, the owner did not post any pictures of the interior but immediately wanted to interview me at the very start of my inquiry. I strongly believe she wanted me to consider renting this place WITH the sizable junk intact and asking for FULL RENT price.
I read the article. It speaks about “the main problem” in the conclusion, but never defines what the “main problem” is. Surely hoarding is symptomatic of a larger psychological problem.
Interesting post! The OP mentioned seeing an "untidy yard and front porch. The yard was disheveled and piles of junk all around".
From what I've seen, heard and experienced with hoarders thru the years, an "untidy, disheveled yard with piles of junk all around" is a clearcut exterior sign of a hoarder.
The accumulation and possession of a hoarder's junk is never just contained inside the house, it will spill out.
Sometime last year, I inquired and posted a thread question about a house for rent in Sunnyvale California - this area is just outside of San Francisco, a high rent district.
It was a hoarder's home and they were asking for FULL Rent as if their home was equal value to other homes in the same neighborhood for rent.
The funny (and pathetic) thing about this rental property, the owner did not post any pictures of the interior but immediately wanted to interview me at the very start of my inquiry. I strongly believe she wanted me to consider renting this place WITH the sizable junk intact and asking for FULL RENT price.
Urghh!
At least you can still see the ground. The hoarder who lives behind me, their property is a total wilderness. I would love to secretly rent some goats and let them loose on that.
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