Why do people hate people who are straightforward, upfront, forthright and tell the truth ? (weight, everything)

[Nonchalance]

Originally Posted by CarolinaMoon1

I don't hate straightforward, upfront, forthright people who tell the truth, far from it. I appreciate it when people make their opinions and values known.

I think the problems creep in, though, when people are overbearing, intrusive, or rude in their interactions. While I appreciate directness, I don't want to feel coerced or disrespected. Kindness goes a long way.

Too often, when someone claims to be 'straightforward,' he's just downright rude.

And then whines about people's natural reaction.

[Nanny Goat]

There's some people, though, that clobber you over their head w/ their "honesty and straightforwardness." Who likes that? And who's asking for their opinion?

[CraigCreek]

In addition to "is it true?", we need to ask ourselves, "Is it necessary? Is it helpful?" and "Is it kind?" before saying something which may be painful for another to hear, true though it may be.

Otherwise, mouths are best kept shut.

[purehuman]

Originally Posted by CraigCreek

In addition to "is it true?", we need to ask ourselves, "Is it necessary? Is it helpful?" and "Is it kind?" before saying something which may be painful for another to hear, true though it may be.

Otherwise, mouths are best kept shut.

I agree...sometimes the truth hurts...could be why some people hate it when you speak truths.

[Calvert Hall '62]

I'll tell a little white lie so as not to hurt a person's feelings.


So sue me.

[turf3]

Originally Posted by Nonchalance

Too often, when someone claims to be 'straightforward,' he's just downright rude.

And then whines about people's natural reaction.

BINGO!!! Nailed it!!


I see a lot of these posts: "Why do people hate those who fart in a small confined space without ventilation? Don't they know it's just a natural healthy fermentation process?" "Why can't people figure out that my profane abuse of them for the tiniest thing is for their own good?" and so on.

[IndyDancer]

Originally Posted by Nonchalance

Too often, when someone claims to be 'straightforward,' he's just downright rude.

And then whines about people's natural reaction.

This. Straightforward people like to be straightforward, but they don't like it when other people are straightforward to them.

[Rowan123]

I don't think they are hated. But what I have seen with some regularity is that people who think they are "straightforward and forthright" use that as an excuse to be rude.

[BirdieBelle]

You've started a LOT of threads like this, OP.

Why don't you give us some examples of what you think are honest and straightforward comments?

[thedwightguy]

Originally Posted by mej210390

Whats up with that? and why aren't more people like this in our society??? it kinda makes me sad and upset to a degree that more people aren't like this, what are your thoughts on this issue???

a great BS filter. Those with an "alternate agenda" don't like that.
Now, my three favourite bosses EVER were German. You could us the word "BLUNT" which can hurt feelings and create mis-understanding. Those particular three gather their "data" carefully and don't make mountains out of molehills, and then "blame Canada' for something happening, in Compton.

Since we're within a very "sensitive" time being upfront, forthright, etc. is asking people to man up and be responsible for THEIR contribution to the problem. That's not popular right now either. Good luck.


I'm on a couple of community committees with women running in the next election, have miles of miles dealing with this stuff since the sixties. It's not a good time for straight shooters right now. It'll be awhile before it gets better.