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Show genuine interest by being a good listener. Ask questions.
I've "been out there" for a long time, and run into very few men who know how to listen.
I know this because being a good listener has always gotten me good results. Even though they still don't listen, LOL.
This is a very important concept not only for dates but with friends, family, colleagues, literally everybody.
Don't be an alligator. (Big mouth, small ears.) It is important in all conversations to keep it near a 50/50 talking/listening. Nobody likes a person who hogs all the talking.
I've met narcissists where their talk/listen ratio was 95/5. I'd rather just have them send me an email. Or gimme the Cliff Notes.
Your date will not like it if you are a conversation hog. If I feel the convo slipping away from 50/50 (perhaps a shy woman) I start asking her questions to draw her out. This isn't a conscious effort but with everybody in all circumstances I endeavor to keep my talk/listen ratio to 50/50.
Eh... life happens. As my mother used to say 'it's an ill wind that blows nobody any good.' In my case a disability gives me a perfect excuse not to participate in the dating game. I'd get a lot more grief from friends and family about opting out if my legs worked.
Actually with 60 replies and OP's only 2 reply backs, OP is plainly a waste of time and typing.
I think my time will be better spent picking the lint out of my belly button or sorting my sock drawer.
Good luck with yer life OP. You'll need it.
In these kinds of posts, I just figure the inevitable "first post" OP just gets the ball rolling, bows out, then we are all talking to each other. So it's not a waste of time for me, as I get to hear from all of YOU.
We all roll along without another peep from the elusive OP.
We all know the phenomenon of the "one post wonder." And worse, they are often what I call "wall of post" (no paragraphs).
I suggest that everybody should cease posting until the OP returns and gives us more information. Otherwise there is no point in adding more replies to this topic.
In effect that would mean we responders closed the topic; no more posts until OP gives us good reason to continue wasting our collective time.
In these kinds of posts, I just figure the inevitable "first post" OP just gets the ball rolling, bows out, then we are all talking to each other. So it's not a waste of time for me, as I get to hear from all of YOU.
We all roll along without another peep from the elusive OP.
I agree. These discussions take on a life of their own. The person who starts them doesn't have any real ownership, in my opinion, nor any real responsibility to continue to participate, though that is a reasonable hope for those who respond directly or ask legitimate, clarifying questions. May not happen though.
Conversations meander, and I've often ignored threads for a few days because the the stated purpose in the title didn't interest me much only to check in and find the thread lost it's way and landed somewhere more interesting.
i have notice in life, you got to be 6'5 have a big black truck, beach house, a big boat, a harley to attract the women, and then to keep them, be mean to them , cheat on them, and other
the nice short dude , finish last, no they dont even get in the race
Actually with 60 replies and OP's only 2 reply backs, OP is plainly a waste of time and typing.
I think my time will be better spent picking the lint out of my belly button or sorting my sock drawer.
Good luck with yer life OP. You'll need it.
That assumes that OP is the only one trying to glean useful knowledge from the thread. He is not.
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