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I am 27 and never had a girlfriend or any sort of relationship with a woman so this is pretty much a non-issue.
However, even if a woman openly stated her interest in me, I would never be able to believe it. A part of me would always remind me that it couldn't possibly be true.
I am 27 and never had a girlfriend or any sort of relationship with a woman so this is pretty much a non-issue.
However, even if a woman openly stated her interest in me, I would never be able to believe it. A part of me would always remind me that it couldn't possibly be true.
Is this weird in some way?
Weird?
By definition, yeah, it's unusual, since the norm in our society is to couple up, and it's unfortunate since it means you apparently don't value yourself enough to believe that another person could want to be with you.
Sounds more appropriate for the Psychology subforum.
I am 27 and never had a girlfriend or any sort of relationship with a woman so this is pretty much a non-issue.
However, even if a woman openly stated her interest in me, I would never be able to believe it. A part of me would always remind me that it couldn't possibly be true.
Is this weird in some way?
What's weird is that you are typing on your computer instead of having followed up with her and see if it might develop into a date. All it has to be is to meet at a coffee shop and chat over coffee or whatever.
What's weird is that you are typing on your computer instead of having followed up with her and see if it might develop into a date. All it has to be is to meet at a coffee shop and chat over coffee or whatever.
What's weird is that you are typing on your computer instead of having followed up with her and see if it might develop into a date. All it has to be is to meet at a coffee shop and chat over coffee or whatever.
Why didn't you do that?
It's not weird, IMO. The OP has serious self-esteem issues. What you're suggesting very likely isn't realistic in the OP's mind. He's here asking questions in an attempt to understand himself. That's a good way to get started working on these issues.
And I agree that this should probably be in the Psychology section.
No, it's not "weird." It's very common for people to have insecurities that slowly erode away aspects of their self-confidence. I think most people suffer from this. I think we are all in good company.
That said, I have found that, typically, most people are their worst and most harsh critics and naysayers when they look to various aspects of their lives, e.g., physical appearance, intelligence, education level, home they live in, job and the list goes on, wherein they themselves see or feel or believe they are deficient in some way. With that mind skew, they then feel or believe that others see in them or their lives what they themselves do. People cannot make you feel shame for something you yourself do not feel shame about. Get it?
It's a lot of words to say that I think you most certainly are worth knowing, spending time with and loving. I mean that, sincerely. I just think you don't see that, but it's true. There is something to love and desire about almost everyone. You just have to find the woman who sees how truly special and unique and lovely you are.
You are not as unlovable and worthless as you think and feel you are. It's the opposite.
Young man, let someone love you. Stop getting in your own way. Let someone love you.
Last edited by self-made; 11-03-2018 at 05:21 PM..
It's not weird, IMO. The OP has serious self-esteem issues. What you're suggesting very likely isn't realistic in the OP's mind. He's here asking questions in an attempt to understand himself. That's a good way to get started working on these issues.
And I agree that this should probably be in the Psychology section.
What? No one here can suggest a therapist if they think his issue is deep-seeded and complex?
He could be just shy and innocent. Sometimes it hard to imagine yourself in a relationship until you wake up one day and find yourself talking to someone who seems interested in you.
By definition, yeah, it's unusual, since the norm in our society is to couple up, and it's unfortunate since it means you apparently don't value yourself enough to believe that another person could want to be with you.
Sounds more appropriate for the Psychology subforum.
I just believe I have both feet on the ground when it comes to this.
It's not weird, IMO. The OP has serious self-esteem issues. What you're suggesting very likely isn't realistic in the OP's mind. He's here asking questions in an attempt to understand himself. That's a good way to get started working on these issues.
And I agree that this should probably be in the Psychology section.
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Originally Posted by ComeCloser
What? No one here can suggest a therapist if they think his issue is deep-seeded and complex?
He could be just shy and innocent. Sometimes it hard to imagine yourself in a relationship until you wake up one day and find yourself talking to someone who seems interested in you.
I don't understand your comments in relation to my post. And it's deep-seated, not deep-seeded.
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