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been trying to cope with break up and it has been affecting me a bit. I constantly think about it throughout the day. Been having limited contact with little to no texting. I know I should not contact her and been trying to stay strong with it. I only had one other real relationship and it was 2 years, that one post break up messed with me for a long time. I think about her a lot, any help with dealing with this? It sucks cause my mind is occupied with this.
I am constantly thinking about what she is doing and i try to occupy myself with other things but it still happens. Also we are leaving for winter break for a bit and I want to meet up with her and talk, but I know it isn't a good idea because I don't have really an objective for why I am doing it. I guess I just want to see her, but then that will ruin my recovery process.
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Look up cognitive behavioral therapy tips on YouTube or something - you just need to redirect your thoughts so you don't torture yourself, needlessly.
Losses must be grieved, so it's okay to cry and feel bad, but if you start obsessive thoughts, that is unhealthy, and a bad thinking habit which you can remedy.
been trying to cope with break up and it has been affecting me a bit. I constantly think about it throughout the day. Been having limited contact with little to no texting. I know I should not contact her and been trying to stay strong with it. I only had one other real relationship and it was 2 years, that one post break up messed with me for a long time. I think about her a lot, any help with dealing with this? It sucks cause my mind is occupied with this.
I am constantly thinking about what she is doing and i try to occupy myself with other things but it still happens. Also we are leaving for winter break for a bit and I want to meet up with her and talk, but I know it isn't a good idea because I don't have really an objective for why I am doing it. I guess I just want to see her, but then that will ruin my recovery process.
Let me assure you that what you are experiencing is normal after a breakup.
First, you think about it all the time. Gradually, you will notice that it's every hour. Then longer periods of time. There is no strict timeline.
Time is a great healer. But you have to help yourself: Keep busy with other activities, family and friends. If you aren't showing some improvement after a month or so, sure, consider some counseling.
Yep, it sucks. Just about all of us have "been there."
OP: You will get over it, everyone does. Occupy yourself with other things in life and take a break from the relationship scene. Help others, learn to meditate, find new adventures in life. You don't say your age, but there is a lot of life out there.
been trying to cope with break up and it has been affecting me a bit. I constantly think about it throughout the day. Been having limited contact with little to no texting. I know I should not contact her and been trying to stay strong with it. I only had one other real relationship and it was 2 years, that one post break up messed with me for a long time. I think about her a lot, any help with dealing with this? It sucks cause my mind is occupied with this.
I am constantly thinking about what she is doing and i try to occupy myself with other things but it still happens. Also we are leaving for winter break for a bit and I want to meet up with her and talk, but I know it isn't a good idea because I don't have really an objective for why I am doing it. I guess I just want to see her, but then that will ruin my recovery process.
Do not meet her. That would be like the worst thing possible for you.
I'm sorry to hear about this. Break-ups are often tough to get over. You are doing the right thing in being occupied with something--you just have to be more focused on it. The only thing that got me over a tough break-up is to always be spending my time doing something. For me it was putting together jigsaw puzzles and watching old black and white movies.
I know it sounds it does sound lame and trite, but time really does heal all wounds (well, at least these kinds). Looking back on the relationship that was difficult for me, I am real glad it didn't work out. I'm sure you will reach a point some time in the future when you will see that it was a good thing that things didn't work out.
Best wishes in this difficult time. It just sucks, I know it. I hope you will get to feeling better quickly.
Don't meet her. You should be cutting off all contact, period. I just got out of a 4.5 year relationship and have had zero contact since the day it ended. I've done this before and learned the hard way that's what I have to do to heal.
You can't look behind you, only forward. Fill your times with things you enjoy doing and people you enjoy being with.
break ups are tough sometimes feels like your heart got ripped right out of you..
but we've all gone through it part of maturity..
ill give you the best advice I got when I was younger - and taking it hard...like mourning a slow relationship death....
LET IT GO...stop marinating in misery.... feel blessed you had the relationship to begin with....think of the happier times and wish her well....this is what a man will do and not an insecure little boy..
every time life punches you in the face......you do two things...learn from it and hit back......hitting back is realizing....if its gone ..if its in the past leave it there.....and start looking ahead....
leave her be....women are like cats they need to come to you...the harder you try to approach the further away you can push them..
and remember this is one woman....she doesn't represent the entire gender of women....guys make that mistake (if SHE doesn't want me no other woman will)
total b.s.
fall off a horse....get back on one and start riding...
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