U.S. CitiesCity-Data Forum Index
Covid-19 Information Page
Go Back   City-Data Forum > General Forums > Psychology
 [Register]
Please register to participate in our discussions with 2 million other members - it's free and quick! Some forums can only be seen by registered members. After you create your account, you'll be able to customize options and access all our 15,000 new posts/day with fewer ads.
View detailed profile (Advanced) or search
site with Google Custom Search

Search Forums  (Advanced)
Reply Start New Thread
 
Old 01-10-2019, 08:23 PM
 
3,256 posts, read 1,109,431 times
Reputation: 2208

Advertisements

As a straight man, I can tell you that most straight men, myself included, prefer women not wearing makeup at all. Don't get me wrong, I'm attracted to straight women, not butch women, but I like women to be low maintenance, not fuss with makeup or curling their hair or doing their nails or plastic surgery. I don't want my future wife to waste time and money on her appearance.

Like I said, I don't like butch women either. But couldn't long hair, and maybe a modest skirt or dress sometimes be enough femininity?

Makeup must just be big business and their marketing. Or maybe women wear makeup to get attention from other women.
Reply With Quote Quick reply to this message

 
Old 01-10-2019, 08:45 PM
 
Location: planet earth
6,656 posts, read 2,790,433 times
Reputation: 14924
Social pressure - probably, initially started to please men.
Reply With Quote Quick reply to this message
 
Old 01-11-2019, 06:23 AM
 
Location: Central IL
16,918 posts, read 10,102,941 times
Reputation: 40050
Quote:
Originally Posted by MrJester View Post
As a straight man, I can tell you that most straight men, myself included, prefer women not wearing makeup at all. Don't get me wrong, I'm attracted to straight women, not butch women, but I like women to be low maintenance, not fuss with makeup or curling their hair or doing their nails or plastic surgery. I don't want my future wife to waste time and money on her appearance.

Like I said, I don't like butch women either. But couldn't long hair, and maybe a modest skirt or dress sometimes be enough femininity?

Makeup must just be big business and their marketing. Or maybe women wear makeup to get attention from other women.
Maybe your mistake is that women don't do that stuff PRIMARILY to suit men. Whether for right or for wrong it is a much broader societal thing and at the same time a very personal thing. Women will do exactly as they want to whether a particular man likes it or not so....don't worry yourself about it!

You can find a woman who is low maintenance but don't think you can change a woman who is high maintenance. Oh - and it's not really about "femininity", either.
Reply With Quote Quick reply to this message
 
Old 01-11-2019, 06:37 AM
 
Location: Brentwood, Tennessee
48,806 posts, read 47,085,318 times
Reputation: 95596
Quote:
Originally Posted by MrJester View Post

I can tell you that most straight men, myself included, prefer women not wearing makeup at all.
Yeah, yeah, I've heard men say this, but it's not really true.

Go out with NO makeup at all, and within five minutes people will be asking, "Are you ok? Are you sick?"

As with anything, there are varying "degrees" of makeup. What most "straight men" want is a little makeup that enhances your features without taking forever to apply, getting in the way of daily life, and getting all over their clothes.

They don't want a woman to be wearing OBVIOUS makeup that attracts negative attention.

Women wear makeup for different reasons. If you don't like a lot of makeup, OP, it makes sense that you would seek out a woman who doesn't wear a lot. That doesn't mean all the rest of the women should have to conform to your supposed preference.
Reply With Quote Quick reply to this message
 
Old 01-11-2019, 07:07 AM
 
Location: Central IL
16,918 posts, read 10,102,941 times
Reputation: 40050
Quote:
Originally Posted by BirdieBelle View Post
Yeah, yeah, I've heard men say this, but it's not really true.

Go out with NO makeup at all, and within five minutes people will be asking, "Are you ok? Are you sick?"

As with anything, there are varying "degrees" of makeup. What most "straight men" want is a little makeup that enhances your features without taking forever to apply, getting in the way of daily life, and getting all over their clothes.

They don't want a woman to be wearing OBVIOUS makeup that attracts negative attention.

Women wear makeup for different reasons. If you don't like a lot of makeup, OP, it makes sense that you would seek out a woman who doesn't wear a lot. That doesn't mean all the rest of the women should have to conform to your supposed preference.
Totally true - and men don't understand the "natural/no makeup look" is actually just well-done neutral makeup that can take as much effort as none - they can be easy to fool that way. Women are more discriminating.
Reply With Quote Quick reply to this message
 
Old 01-11-2019, 07:10 AM
 
Location: Central New Jersey
2,517 posts, read 1,115,677 times
Reputation: 4487
Low self esteem is why.
Reply With Quote Quick reply to this message
 
Old 01-11-2019, 09:06 AM
 
Location: Pittsburgh
23,909 posts, read 25,842,194 times
Reputation: 53263
Quote:
Originally Posted by BirdieBelle View Post
Yeah, yeah, I've heard men say this, but it's not really true.

Go out with NO makeup at all, and within five minutes people will be asking, "Are you ok? Are you sick?"
.
This meme that went around social media last year always makes me laugh: https://me.me/i/y-makeup-look-withou...woman-21970356 "Is this a diseased person?"
Reply With Quote Quick reply to this message
 
Old 01-11-2019, 09:11 AM
 
Location: On the road
920 posts, read 421,453 times
Reputation: 2405
Quote:
Originally Posted by MrJester View Post
As a straight man, I can tell you that most straight men, myself included, prefer women not wearing makeup at all. Don't get me wrong, I'm attracted to straight women, not butch women, but I like women to be low maintenance, not fuss with makeup or curling their hair or doing their nails or plastic surgery. I don't want my future wife to waste time and money on her appearance.

Like I said, I don't like butch women either. But couldn't long hair, and maybe a modest skirt or dress sometimes be enough femininity?

Makeup must just be big business and their marketing. Or maybe women wear makeup to get attention from other women.
Amen to the bolded points. So glad my fiance rarely wears makeup, and when she does it's extremely simple like lipstick and/or eye-liner.

As for reasons why women in general do it? Depending on the individual, it could be social expectations, self-esteem, attracting a partner, or they just genuinely enjoy wearing makeup as an art form. Could potentially be a mixture of those reasons as well.
Reply With Quote Quick reply to this message
 
Old 01-11-2019, 09:35 AM
 
Location: Colorado (PA at heart)
9,301 posts, read 14,529,743 times
Reputation: 12210
I think that perhaps your view of what "most" men like might be a bit skewed by the other men in your life. People tend to surround themselves with people they have things in common with so it's not surprising to me at all that most of the men in your life have a similar taste in women. There's nothing wrong with that, but that doesn't define most men in the world. There are indeed a lot of men out there who prefer a woman who does a lot of priming and primping of her appearance. And as someone else pointed out, women don't primarily do this just to attract or please men. They do it because they like it and they like how they look when they do it. Most likely, they wind up attracting men who also like it, and your inability to see that there are plenty of men who do is a little short sighted. How about you just let women do what they want, because I'm pretty sure they don't care what you think? You've started this topic as though you're bestowing your greater wisdom on us ignorant women for our sake. Guess what? We don't care.

FTR I don't often wear makeup, I've never had plastic surgery, and my hair is naturally curly. But I totally support any woman's right to do whatever she wants with her body regardless of what some men might think.
Reply With Quote Quick reply to this message
 
Old 01-11-2019, 09:42 AM
 
Location: Colorado (PA at heart)
9,301 posts, read 14,529,743 times
Reputation: 12210
Quote:
Originally Posted by BirdieBelle View Post
Yeah, yeah, I've heard men say this, but it's not really true.

Go out with NO makeup at all, and within five minutes people will be asking, "Are you ok? Are you sick?"

As with anything, there are varying "degrees" of makeup. What most "straight men" want is a little makeup that enhances your features without taking forever to apply, getting in the way of daily life, and getting all over their clothes.

They don't want a woman to be wearing OBVIOUS makeup that attracts negative attention.

Women wear makeup for different reasons. If you don't like a lot of makeup, OP, it makes sense that you would seek out a woman who doesn't wear a lot. That doesn't mean all the rest of the women should have to conform to your supposed preference.
Years ago, back when I thought it was cool to read Cosmo mag, they published the results of a survey done in a men's magazine. The survey showed a random group of men three photos of the same woman, one with full, very heavy makeup, the other with full but natural looking makeup, and one with so little makeup, to the untrained eye it looked like none at all (I think it was just foundation and maybe a bit of blush). Most men chose the full but natural looking makeup as the best looking or most attractive. Some thought the girl with barely any makeup looked ill, and she wasn't even completely barefaced! Some of the men didn't even realize all three were the same woman. Men are so clueless when it comes to makeup sometimes, yet some feel the need to make commentary on it and give us advice about it.
Reply With Quote Quick reply to this message
Please register to post and access all features of our very popular forum. It is free and quick. Over $68,000 in prizes has already been given out to active posters on our forum. Additional giveaways are planned.

Detailed information about all U.S. cities, counties, and zip codes on our site: City-data.com.


Reply
Please update this thread with any new information or opinions. This open thread is still read by thousands of people, so we encourage all additional points of view.

Quick Reply
Message:

Over $104,000 in prizes was already given out to active posters on our forum and additional giveaways are planned!

Go Back   City-Data Forum > General Forums > Psychology
Similar Threads
Follow City-Data.com founder on our Forum or

All times are GMT -6.

© 2005-2020, Advameg, Inc. · Please obey Forum Rules · Terms of Use and Privacy Policy · Bug Bounty

City-Data.com - Contact Us - Archive 1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9, 10, 11, 12, 13, 14, 15, 16, 17, 18, 19, 20, 21, 22, 23, 24, 25, 26, 27, 28, 29, 30, 31, 32, 33, 34, 35, 36, 37 - Top