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View Poll Results: Do men who grew up with sisters understand women better?
Yes--and they end up with better marriages as a result 9 18.00%
Yes, but doesn't mean they have better marriages. 26 52.00%
No, but only if you have female cousins and aunts nearby. 1 2.00%
No, even if your mom is your only female relative nearby. 14 28.00%
Voters: 50. You may not vote on this poll

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Old 01-21-2019, 06:24 AM
 
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Do men with sisters understand women better? I think not.

1. Men and women are different and are always going to have a hard time understanding each other.
2. Men who don't have sisters probably grew up with their mom, and that's just as good.
3. For men, there's really no correlation between having sisters and being happily married to your wife. We all know of men with no sisters who get along wonderfully with their wives and men with no sisters who still can't figure out their wives.
4. To truly understand women, men would have to engage in women's hobbies, like sewing, cooking, etc. We all know of men with sisters who have zero interest in sewing or cooking, and have zero female friends. We all know of men without sisters who like sewing, cooking and thus have a lot of female friends through it.
5. Come on, unless they're in the military, go to an all-boy's school, or work on an oil rig, most men without sisters are still going to be surrounded by women on a daily basis.

If men with sisters really understood women better, then it would stand to reason that men with sisters have more female friends than men without sisters.
A lot of non sequitur reasoning going on........

Who sews and cooks as hobbies?
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Old 01-21-2019, 09:01 AM
 
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I know more men certainly cook now than in the 50's, but from what I can tell women still do far more of it than men. But in almost all cases it is a necessity, not a hobby. Is mowing the lawn a hobby for men just because they do more of it than women do? I don't think so.
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Old 01-21-2019, 10:05 AM
 
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As usual for C-D polls created by posters who use them to present some personal agenda, there aren't enough choices. You need to add this one:

No, they are men.

I already have that choice: The last choice, implying that there's no correlation between having sisters and understanding women because men have a hard time understanding women anyways.
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Old 01-21-2019, 01:55 PM
 
Location: NJ
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Do men with sisters understand women better?


Do men who grew up with sisters understand women better?
Yes--and they end up with better marriages as a result
Yes, but doesn't mean they have better marriages.
No, but only if you have female cousins and aunts nearby.
No, even if your mom is your only female relative nearby.
Where did you come up with these no answers? They suck. No just means no. My hub had 5 sisters and 2 brothers. He surely never understood a lot of where I was coming from because he was a bachelor for a long time after his 1st marriage didn't work out. Being together 20 years has taken a lot of talking and compromise.
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Old 01-21-2019, 03:26 PM
 
Location: Grosse Ile Michigan
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I grew up with a sister and two brothers. No It did not cause me to understand women any better. It did teach me how to fight better, my sister used to beat the snot out of me.
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Old 01-21-2019, 03:36 PM
 
Location: Sheffield, England
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In my experience, no, not at all. I never got on with either of my sisters well really, and have no interest in meeting/interacting with girls (in a romantic capacity) now so no incentive to get better at it.
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Old 01-21-2019, 04:31 PM
 
Location: Southwest Washington State
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Men that understand people are going to understand women. Women that understand people are going to understand men. It is one reason why some people are much better at relationships than others. Most people aren't all that complicated. They might like to think they are, but they're not.
Well, finally someone hit the nail on the head. Yes. If most people baffle you, then I suppose most women (or men) will do the same.

People like to be treated with kindness and respect. If you cannot do that, then you will have problems with the opposite sex.

There is no magic formula, especially to having a long term relationship, other than to treat the other person with kindness and resoect. And if someone cannot appreciate kindness and respect, then she us not worthy of your attention.
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Old 01-21-2019, 06:29 PM
 
Location: Sheffield, England
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Well, finally someone hit the nail on the head. Yes. If most people baffle you, then I suppose most women (or men) will do the same.

People like to be treated with kindness and respect. If you cannot do that, then you will have problems with the opposite sex.

There is no magic formula, especially to having a long term relationship, other than to treat the other person with kindness and resoect. And if someone cannot appreciate kindness and respect, then she us not worthy of your attention.
As a man you also have to be assertive and set boundaries, women don't respect nice guys who are only always kind and respectful in the long term. People take advantage of those qualities in a person who has no backbone.
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Old 01-21-2019, 07:35 PM
 
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As a man you also have to be assertive and set boundaries, women don't respect nice guys who are only always kind and respectful in the long term. People take advantage of those qualities in a person who has no backbone.

Those nice guys who are only always kind and respectful are just people pleasing, which in itself isn't nice
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Old 01-21-2019, 08:06 PM
 
Location: State of Transition
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My impression in earlier days, was that women don't know, themselves, what they want. So how was a guy supposed to be able to know what a woman wants from him? I only rarely stumbled into a situation where I seemed to be doing the right thing to please one of them. And whatever it was, I couldn't get it to work again.

So in the end, I've found that you have to treat each one as a unique individual and forget about any "tried and true" formula. And it takes a long time, to really get to know another person. So there's no quick-action relationship that will turn into something durable, unless it's a one-in-a-thousand type of fairytale romance.
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Good post, but sad that it takes years for it to dawn on some guys, that women are individuals. I mean, you don't assume all men respond to the same thing, and that you need to approach guys in some formulaic way, do you? Some like sports, some don't respond to sports talk. Some are arrogant, others are passive, others are balanced in-between. There are all kinds of personalities out there, tons of variation, and they come on both genders.

I'm not picking on you, Steve; I'm just using your post to illustrate what we so often see on these forums--guys who are desperate to find what they assume is "the key" to talking to women.

I just think it's sad that there's this level of estrangement between men and women.
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