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The tone in which a person says " ohh You are one of 'those'. It's condesending .
The "calm down you're just too sensitive". No. I'm in tune with the reality of the event or circumstance that created the normal human conveyance .
'Suck it up'. That phrase will set off ww3 . Just even typing it ires my being that some folks use it with such a an abrasive attitude.
Everyone close to me knows that the F bomb is off limits. Cringe worthy. Some folks consider that the adjective or verb to fill in their mindless banter.
I agree with the one poster who mentioned " no problem" when a person can graciously say..you are welcome ...or my pleasure. But saying "not a problem" ..is a problem!...
My eldest son gets triggered if I say ..
"Really?? "
. He mentioned that it's a lead in to doubting the speakers data. I said...I use it in the sense of ...wow...who knew! . Impressive .!
He said it's rude to question his conveyance of information that in subtext I'm gleaning him as a liar. I didn't ever see it that way ..
That is the very last thing to say to me if I'm a little annoyed at something and am expressing it.
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Originally Posted by kyle19125
The replacement of "you're welcome" with "no problem" in a customer service setting. Biting through my tongue versus blurting out "it had better not be, it's your job" is becoming more and more difficult.
Well.....I'm one of those who says that. When I say it, I'm saying it to mean "you do not need to thank me". Yes, I understand that they are "pleasantries", but when I'm helping someone, job or not, I do not do it for any other reason than I want to help the person, job or not. So, "no problem" means "you don't have to thank me."
People who use “guys’s” to describe or address a a group of people.
EG: “You guys’s really need to stop picking on me” “those guys’s over their” etc etc
I really have no “triggers” that send me off the deep end, but this will always cause me to pause in my head and figuratively shake it and force myself to not attempt to correct.
It’s an American colloquialism that I can never get use to hearing.
There were more females in the class than males. (That may be ‘dehumanizing’ to you, but I sincerely don’t see it.)
"Female" is a scientific term that refers to the sex of a species that is capable of producing children. The term "woman" refers specifically to human beings, while "female" could refer to any species. That alone is dehumanizing.
The primary use of the term "female" is as an adjective. When you call a woman "a female," you're deleting the term "human." It reduces a woman to her reproductive parts and function. Literally dehumanizing.
Most of the terms used for gender are BOTH common - ladies and gentlemen, boys and girls, etc. But guys really never refer to each other as "males." As in ... "All these males in here getting in my way ..."
The fact that women almost never refer to each other this way is the first clue that it's meant by many to be derisive.
Given my posting history here on CD, many would be surprised at how well I keep my big mouth shut in public, regarding a public health matter (threat).
Only one time have I ever been triggered & that was last year when I had to stop at a drugstore on my way to pick up my severely disabled son from school because he had once again, necessitated an evacuation due to yet another violent, autistic meltdown.
The nice lady behind the counter offered me a 'flu shot' & I fell apart. All I said was 'Oh no' & I ran out crying.
Only time.
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