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Old 01-17-2020, 03:25 AM
 
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Ok so how do you build and maintain a friendship if that is your behavior towards your friend? I thought the point was to be available for people you care about.
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All that makes sense. I feel as I’m sending the wrong message if i see the message and not reply. The other person may take it as I don’t want to be bothered with their bs. In return damage our relationship or friendship etc.

Returning someones call 3 days after is ok because phone calls take time but can’t do the same with texts.
You have it backwards. A phone call shows you are available for the people you care about. Also, I am not available for BS and BS for me means always complaining.
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Old 01-17-2020, 03:28 AM
 
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All that makes sense. I feel as I’m sending the wrong message if i see the message and not reply. The other person may take it as I don’t want to be bothered with their bs. In return damage our relationship or friendship etc.

Returning someones call 3 days after is ok because phone calls take time but can’t do the same with texts.
You do realize that in many situations a one minute call can create a better solution than a ten minute texting exchange, right?
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Old 01-17-2020, 08:24 AM
 
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You have it backwards. A phone call shows you are available for the people you care about. Also, I am not available for BS and BS for me means always complaining.
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You do realize that in many situations a one minute call can create a better solution than a ten minute texting exchange, right?
Absolutely! Face to face is best, but at least in a phone call you can hear emotion (or lack thereof) in a person's voice. Texting and even emailing are just tools of convenience and no more, They are lousy ways of communicating with your fellow man.
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Old 01-17-2020, 10:01 AM
 
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Cell phone is essentially an electronic leash. If I am working, driving, reading, walking, sleeping - those activities almost always take priority over answering a cell phone call or a text.

I'm with Woody in #9 and #33.
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Old 01-17-2020, 12:33 PM
 
Location: NMB, SC
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I've never "built friendships" from texts. Face to face is how I build friendships. Texting to me is just a tool to contact your already friend with bits of info like "I'm running late" or "Here's a nice pic of the beach". No deep discussions or anything..that's for in person or over the phone.
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Old 01-17-2020, 12:36 PM
 
Location: Yakima yes, an apartment!
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I'm one of those people who always responds back to texts within a matter of minutes. That is mainly because I always have the phone on me just like everyone else. Unless you're a new mom who have like 3 little kids running around and got baby duties and that is almost like 10% of people we know, if that. So majority of the people have no excuse to not text back or unless you live in a box and still carry a flip phone that you need to mail back to the 70s.

Am I the only one who is so responsive? Are there people out there who can relate?
I'm responsive if I am awake. I work graveyard and recently the supervisor put the kibosh on phones out where they can be seen. Not too big an issue as I'm working 11 pm to 7:30 am. But I sleep about 1 pm to 9 pm or so. Responding is something I do like to do quickly, but not 24/7

Right now I just texted my sister who works swing. I suspect she might be awake now, but it can be 1 min to 2 days before she responds....No problem, I know where she lives....
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Old 01-17-2020, 01:38 PM
 
Location: Dessert
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I'm one of those people who always responds back to texts within a matter of minutes. That is mainly because I always have the phone on me just like everyone else. Unless you're a new mom who have like 3 little kids running around and got baby duties and that is almost like 10% of people we know, if that. So majority of the people have no excuse to not text back or unless you live in a box and still carry a flip phone that you need to mail back to the 70s.

Am I the only one who is so responsive? Are there people out there who can relate?
Important to you is not always important to me.
I don't feel the need to be at others' beck and call 24/7, and I think people who spend all their time glued to their phones are missing out on living real life.

And the 70s wouldn't know what to do with your flip phone.
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Old 01-17-2020, 02:27 PM
 
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Heck sometimes when I text my daughter She sometimes doesn’t answer for a couple of days, she works nights as a RN at a hospital so she may be sleeping, working and taking care of her family, I’m fine waiting.
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Old 01-17-2020, 05:06 PM
 
Location: Moku Nui, Hawaii
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Patience is a virtue and I'm helping my friends increase their virtues! Ha! And not being expected to answer texts immediately is so much more restful. Wait a day or so and reply with 'oops, lost my phone' or 'the battery died' or some such. Don't answer immediately all the time or they will expect it.
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Old 01-17-2020, 05:45 PM
 
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I'm one of those people who always responds back to texts within a matter of minutes. That is mainly because I always have the phone on me just like everyone else. Unless you're a new mom who have like 3 little kids running around and got baby duties and that is almost like 10% of people we know, if that. So majority of the people have no excuse to not text back or unless you live in a box and still carry a flip phone that you need to mail back to the 70s.

Am I the only one who is so responsive? Are there people out there who can relate?
I'm not a slave to my phone. I keep the ringer and notifications off most of the time. Sometimes I just don't feel like responding right away. I get to it when I'm ready.
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