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Originally Posted by newdixiegirl
Wanna make a bet? It's so funny how men tell themselves this.
Women are probably not as singularly visual as men are -- I, for example, wouldn't be attracted to a man who's not intelligent, no matter how good he looks -- but to say that women don't check out men's bodies with lust or at least appreciation is just patently wrong.
I think any women who say they never look at good-looking men in a sexual way are gay, asexual, or lying.
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I'm not gay, asexual or lying, but I might be something like sapiosexual or freaking...whatever...I don't like or worry about labels. I look at beautiful humans but I don't think it is in "a sexual way." I don't look at them and imagine interacting sexually with them, I don't look at them and feel a sexual feeling. I look at them like I look at art, or a beautiful landscape or a tiger at the zoo. They are beautiful, and I've got eyes to see and I might enjoy seeing a beautiful person. But if the single most beautiful human being by my own standards came up to me out of the blue and offered sex, I'd say no if I did not know them. We'd have to talk for some hours before I'd feel comfortable enough. I've had such opportunities before and I was (and this makes me laugh, because compared to most normies I'm fairly libertine) the awkward and shy stick-in-the-mud at a friend's party that basically became an orgy. I was invited by some very pretty people to get in on the fun, but some of them I had never even spoken to, and that was enough to send me fleeing the room. I spent most of the time sitting outside smoking and looking at Facebook on my phone. It just was not a comfortable situation for me.
I actually bought a bikini last year, that I thought would fit more comfortably than most do. I liked how it was made, rather than triangles for the top, it had more like a sports bra shape but with a low plunge in the front and the sides lace up corset-style. The bottoms also had the lace-up thing on the sides. I tried it on, thought it looked OK in a mirror. So I wore it to a photo shoot activity that a friend was hosting (all of these parties and activities happen at a club I'm part of, it may be outside of most people's experience, but it's a thing)...and when I saw the pictures I realized that bikini did not flatter my body in the ways I thought it did. My chest looked flat and my belly looked flabby (though I'm not big, just not exactly toned.) I have not worn it since.
My not wearing it, isn't because I worry about other people commenting or thinking I'm unattractive. Couldn't care less what other people think. In fact I had other people see those photos and told me they were hot! No, it's because I judged it in MY OWN EYES as not being what I'd hoped for and expected of it.
Speaking to the room in general and men in particular... Trust me, no matter how critical other people can be of women's bodies in this way or that way, you're probably nowhere near as critical as any given woman is of herself. The culture beats us over the head with how we're never good enough. So a woman is either just shooting for comfort and looks be damned, or else she's fighting a fairly brave battle to persuade herself, to like her appearance. Either way, I'm all for it and I applaud it.
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